A gravitational anomaly must have happened in Tulsa recently since a nine-month-old infant is now brain-dead after ‘falling off a bed’. Doctors who examined the child said the injuries the child sustained were consistent with that of being ejected from a car during a high-speed collision or falling from a third story window onto concrete. So obviously the magnetic poles of the Earth must have drastically shifted recently to cause such velocity and impact from such a short height. Or we could have a lying sack of crap boyfriend.
38-year-old Ezekiel Hadithy was living with the baby’s mother at a motel in Tulsa. When the baby ‘fell off the bed’ Hadithy had allegedly woken the mother and said he found the baby like that. After police started investigating, Hadithy is said to have changed his story to where he supposedly ‘dropped’ the baby on the motel laundry room floor. So either the bed was on a third story ledge or the motel laundry room doubled as a crash test facility.
You may think you’re smarter than police and doctors, but you’re not. They have years of training and experience on how to recognize child abuse and you’re a lugnut who lives in a motel room. Maybe instead of trying to fabricate a situation that couldn’t have possibly happened, call 911 immediately and maybe this baby could have had a fighting chance.
This past Friday, police in Norwood, Colorado, found the bodies of two girls between the ages of 5 and 10 on a local farm. Their identities and causes of death have not been released, but the bodies were believed to have been there for at least two weeks. Police received a tip about the bodies being on the farm.
Those charged in the girls’ deaths are 23-year-old Frederick A. Blair, 37-year-old Madani Ceus, 53-year-old Ika Eden, 50-year-old Nathan Yah, and Nashika Bramble. Bramble was briefly on the run before turning herself into authorities on Saturday.
The four initial suspects have all been charged with murder in the second degree, criminally negligent homicide and felony child abuse causing death. Before Bramble was apprehended, police said she was wanted on the same charges.
The two victims are believed to be related to each other and to one of the suspects.
Much like everywhere else in the country, even rural areas are becoming much less tight-knit. Gone are the days where everyone knew who their neighbors were. Now, people tend to be less socially active in their own communities which makes it easier to hide child abuse.
I’ll post more details as they become available and as time allows.
Three-year-old Evan Brewer of Wichita, Kansas, was unfortunately caught in a custody battle that may have cost him his life. His father, Carlo Brewer, had been concerned for the safety of his son while the boy was living with his mother, 36-year-old Miranda Miller. Miller and her boyfriend, 40-year-old Stephen Bodine, lived together in a home Miller rented. The couple had only been together since February.
At first Miller and Brewer shared custody through an informal arrangement, but then Miller allegedly started limiting Brewer’s visitation to the point where members of Brewer’s family had to send Evan gifts through a third-party. Mr. Brewer had even filed an order of protection for Evan stating Evan had been injured and was always filthy and didn’t have appropriate clothing. Miller continued to avoid authorities who kept trying to make welfare checks on Evan. Eventually Miller and Bodine were evicted from the rental property and while the landlord was cleaning out the property found a concrete structure where the smell of death permeated the area. The body of a small boy was found inside the concrete. The body may have been there as far back as March.
While DNA results will be forthcoming, Evan’s grandfather, former Wichita Mayor and current gubernatorial candidate Carl Brewer, confirmed the body belonged to Evan. So far no cause of death has been determined, but Miller and Bodine have been arrested. Miller was charged with aggravated interference with parental custody while Bodine was charged with aggravated assault. Carl Brewer had even tried reaching out to multiple government agencies including DCF and Governor Sam Brownback’s office to try to find his grandson.
I’ll post more updates as they become available and as time allows.
In case you ever wondered if monsters exist in our world, read the story about 22-year-old Mekielle Pullins of Indiana.
Back in July, she triggered an Amber Alert when she allegedly abducted her own kids, ages 2, 3, and 7. Luckily, they were found to be unharmed and have been placed with the Indiana Department of Child Services. It’s what she did while she was on the run that’s been grabbing headlines.
Pullins is accused of allegedly abusing one of her kids while recording it and sending the videos to the kid’s father. Investigators say Pullins covered her son’s mouth and nose and recorded the child struggling to breathe. That’s not even mentioning the messages she sent to the boy’s father…
“Bout to call police so they can come get his body.”
“Explain to him in the next lifetime why he dead.”
“I’m stabbing (the child) 2 night I hate him.”
“I wish u never gave me him. I don’t love him or you. U used me for a baby and money then left me on the side of the road and left kids n shelter with not one call in weeks.”
She even allegedly threatened to molest the boy and sell him.
It’s one thing to be mad at your child’s father for being a deadbeat dad, it’s another to choke your own child to get back at the father. We all know how hard it can be to try to get child support out of someone who refuses to pay it, but if a dad won’t pay, an innocent child shouldn’t have to pay in his blood.
However, she just wasn’t mad, she was violently insane. Hopefully, the kids can find a better life either with their father(s), other relatives, or through the foster care system. She should never be allowed near a child or see the light of day ever again.
(Thanks to Lady Gray for the assist)
More than 1200 children in 24 foster care residential facilities along the Texas coastline have been evacuated and taken to other facilities and churches in the San Antonio area. These other facilities include the Children’s Shelter, Boysville, St. Jude’s Ranch for Children and Roy Maas Alternatives.
Renee Garvens of Roy Maas Alternatives said,
“[These kids are] pretty amazingly resilient in their ability to just grab their stuff and walk away from one home to the next.”
Think about that for a minute. Amazingly resilient, or sadly accustomed to it? This “ability” is one no child should possess or be good at. But it’s the sad truth for many, if not most, children in foster care across the country. They learn not to put down roots anywhere, because they could be relocated any time.
They’ve most likely learned this the hard way, from previous failed placements. Learning things the hard way often results in a tough, bad-ass child/teenager/adult, who is unable to follow through with or commit to much of anything or anyone. And so the foster care cycle begins again for these children’s children, not in every case, but in many.
Blessings to the facilities and churches that took in these evacuated kids, and blessings to the staff who most likely followed the kids to ensure care was provided to them during this upheaval. Perhaps something remained constant for the kids if they at least had some familiar caregivers.
Roy Maas Alternatives
St. Jude’s Ranch for Children
The New Mexico Children, Families and Youth Department has announced a pilot program designed to provide McDonald’s Happy Meals for kids newly placed in state custody.
Cabinet Secretary Monique Jacobson knew kids were often hungry when removed from their homes and awaiting placement in a foster home. McDonald’s restaurants in New Mexico were approached about providing meal cards to CFYD so kids could have a meal they were familiar with that also comforted them during this stressful wait time. The amazing thing about this pilot program (which began in August and runs through December) is that every single McDonald’s in New Mexico (over 100) agreed to participate in supplying each CFYD office with meal cards. When’s the last time you remember an entire state’s worth of any company agreeing with their state government on something? Never? Me neither. So, that’s good.
The sad things about this program are, number one, that these kids are so familiar with and comforted by a cheap, quick meal, bought on the fly, eaten in the car, requiring no planning or consideration or tradition, and is synonymous with “dinner” perhaps more often than it should be.
Number two, if more services and supports were available and were funneled to families in crisis in a larger effort to maintain kids in their own homes whenever possible, then maybe fewer would come into custody or be hungry when they do. Just my opinion.
To report child abuse or neglect in New Mexico, call 1-855-333-7233 or #SAFE from any cell phone.
I’ve worked in the foster care field for nearly 25 years, and over that time span, I’ve formed strong opinions about what probably works better than foster homes for some kids in foster care. There is also another reason I have these opinions, which I’ll reveal later.
I believe family foster homes are best for some children, say age 10-ish and younger. Why? I think the littler kids adapt better to a foster home and foster family than older kids do. Perhaps younger kids, and especially sibling groups, need a family atmosphere more than older kids. In my experience, I’ve found that the older kids actually do much better if placed in group home or residential settings compared to foster home placements.
Here are some reasons this may be true:
1. Group homes are more structured than foster homes. There are few opportunities to do something wrong or overstep one’s bounds in a rule-driven, scheduled environment.
2. Group homes have staff as opposed to parents who aren’t theirs.
3. Kids’ loyalties aren’t torn between their own parents and the staff, since the roles are nothing alike.
4. Kids’ loyalties aren’t torn between their own home and a group home, because the setting is totally different.
5. Kids don’t feel like they have to pretend people are their parents when out in public with staff, the way they do when out in public with foster parents.
6. The perception of others in a child’s home neighborhood or school is often one of blaming the child for his placement in a group home. Alternatively, when a child is placed into a foster home, the blame more often is placed on the child’s parents by others. It’s very difficult for kids to know others hold their parents in low regard.
7. When kids return home from a group or residential setting, they have a little bit of “status”, as some sort of survivor.
8. When kids return home from a foster home placement, they are often the subjects of unwanted pity for having such losers as parents.
The prevailing trend in foster care placement is to place all children in homes instead of group settings. The national average of kids in out of home care who are placed in group settings is 6%. Some states pride themselves in having a lower percentage, and strive for a lower percentage. I wonder if the outcomes and futures of these children back up the perception that family home settings are best for all kids. I can find no long-term follow-up studies of children’s well-being 5 years, 10 years, 20 years after aging out of foster care. Believe me, I’ve tried. The only other reliable source I have for my beliefs listed above is myself, because, you see, I was a child in foster care many years ago, and experienced all those things and thrived much better in the group setting in which I was finally placed.
30-year-old Colleen Nichols was allegedly found behind the wheel of her vehicle after overdosing on prescription pills in Boca Raton, Florida. In the back of the vehicle was her 4-year-old daughter who just wanted to go her preschool. It doesn’t sound like the car was involved in any kind of collision, thankfully. However, the vehicle was unlocked with Nichols slumped over the wheel. A witness called 911 and EMT’s had to use Narcan to revive her. Reports say Nichols took an almost 30 day supply of Klonipin in a little over a day. After Nichols returned to consciousness, first responders asked her where she thought her daughter was and Nichols was said to have responded by saying: “I don’t know, I must have blacked out, I’m under a lot of stress.”
How much ‘stress’ do you have to be under to take a month’s worth of Klonipin in less than a two-day period? Unless you’re a four-fingered member of a bomb squad in Afghanistan, you’re not under that much stress. Then again, it’s a common characteristic of drug addicts to blame everyone but themselves for their behavior. They tell the most outlandish lies in order to try to get their fix and expect you to believe them. In too many cases, addicts don’t care who the repercussions of their actions affect, even if it’s their own children.
Prescription drug abuse is now the worst drug abuse problem in the U.S. today. Unfortunately, most addicts don’t think they have a problem, and can’t start recovering until they do. The Mayo Clinic website has a detailed guide on how to stage an intervention in case a loved one has a substance abuse problem.
Want another story about a Bad Breeder? Check out this story about a man who took his infant to a craigslist sex date on Crime Classified.
Rocla Aceneth Tovar Calderon
Police in Calvert County, Maryland, responded to a home after they received complaints a 3-year-old boy had marks on him. The complaint came from teachers at the boy’s Head Start program. (Let’s hear it for teachers.) When the police and CPS approached the boy’s mother about the marks, 40-year-old Rocla Aceneth Tovar Calderon was said to have admitted to the abuse. She claims the boy is too wild for her to control but tries not to hit him because, in her words, “he’s white and it leaves marks.” She also allegedly claimed to hit the boy with a shoe because using her hands cause blood clots. The reason she claimed she couldn’t control the child was “because he’s 3”. That’s only the tip of the iceberg too. I recommend reading the entire article from Southern Maryland News Net linked above.
While Calderon was arrested and charged with abuse there is a sort of silver lining to this story…
The Child Protective Services Worker prepared a safety plan for Calderon, which was signed by both parties, indicating that she was not allowed to hit the child with any objects. The plan also indicated that in-home services would be provided by CPS to assist Calderon with the child’s behavior and with cleaning her home so that it is sanitary.
From what Lady Gray tells me, these kind of resources are available in most states. So hopefully, we can get this message out to people who will now reach out to their state agencies before hitting their children.
Here’s something you may not have thought of, I know I didn’t. While the article I read only deals with the state of Colorado, I would imagine it’s the same in every state.
Reports to the Colorado child abuse hotline reach a lull in the summer months, then start up again as school begins. Caseworkers at Colorado’s DHS say this is because teachers don’t have eyes on their students during the summer months.
Imagine a child who is going through abuse at home during the summer. They may not even have the option to reach out to someone for help during what is supposed to be the happiest time of the year for kids. While other kids are out swimming or playing, they might be at home, not allowed to go out so no one sees the signs of abuse, just counting the days until school starts again so they can have some kind of escape from their home lives.
This means as regular citizens, we need to be more active in reporting suspected cases of abuse. It’s better for there to be a false alarm than an abused child not receiving any help because we didn’t want to get involved.
Here is a link to all the state child abuse hotlines, while Colorado’s is 1-844-CO-4- KIDS (1-844-264-5437). In any state you can remain anonymous, although more weight is given to a report when the reporter gives their name. A suspected abuser is never given the reporter’s name. However, it’s better to report anonymously than not at all.