Saudi man marries off 8-year-old daughter

Saudi judge refuses to annul marriage of girl, 8:

Traveling the world from my couch to bring you bad parenting news from around the world, I’m Trench Reynolds for Parents Behaving Badly.

Today we travel to Suadi Arabia to bring you a bad parenting story of epic proportions. They may be one of the richest countries in the world but all the money in the world can’t buy you common sense.

I’m sure you’ve seen the headlines about this story, a so-called father married away his daugter away to a 47-year-old man that the ‘father’ owed debts to. Not so unusual right? I mean arranged marriages happen all the time in the Middle East. Except the fact that the girl is only 8 years old.

The girl’s mother took the case to court but since the couple were separated the ‘judge’, Sheikh Habib Abdallah al-Habib Hasenfefer Corporated, ruled that the marriage stands.

It’s ok though because the judge asked, not ordered but asked, that the man give a pledge that the marriage won’t be consummated until the girl reaches puberty. Well, that makes it all better doesn’t it?

With all that money you’d think the country could afford to but itself into at least the latter part of the 20th century. What father in their right mind would give away their 8-year-old daughter to another man because of some ridiculous debt. Don’t they give goats and camels anymore?

Thanks to LadyJade for the tip.

  • Sfdudesuxballs

    You guys just hate muslims so fuck you!

  • Sfdudesuxballs

    You guys just hate muslims so fuck you!

  • sfdude_2008

    I completely agree with you, Neek, or Nick, or whosoever you are.

    I have good news now! The good news is, in case you’re curious…THAT POOR GIRL FINALLY GETS GRANTED TO DIVORCE THAT SICK MAN HER FATHER FORCED HER TO MARRY!!!!! WOOHOO!!!!!!! Only adults should marry adults. Are y’all with me?

  • sfdude_2008

    I completely agree with you, Neek, or Nick, or whosoever you are.

    I have good news now! The good news is, in case you’re curious…THAT POOR GIRL FINALLY GETS GRANTED TO DIVORCE THAT SICK MAN HER FATHER FORCED HER TO MARRY!!!!! WOOHOO!!!!!!! Only adults should marry adults. Are y’all with me?

  • Neek

    That’s right, according to their Holy Book Qoran, in the Soreh(chapter) of An-Nesah a men is twice worth a women, a women’s testimony is half the men worth, a man can marry up to 4 women if the first,second,third etc..all agree, if a man has maids in his house hold their all at his mercy in any way and form.
    A men’s wife is also at his mercy in any way and form, it says literary that a men can farm in his wife in anyway he wishes…
    If a men catches his wife cheating he can kill her right away but if a women catches her husband cheating on her she needs to have two of her closest male relatives or family to be standing there and witness, also they have to get a thread and try to see if it would pass between a men and a women’s private part while caught in action! and when so the men could be forgiven but a women gets stoned. That’s right this is called Islam and there are no different interpretations or else.A sentence has only one meaning and it can only be interpreted in one way. Islam is not a religion it is cult and it is all about sex, food, war and how to kill. If you have someone translate you Qoran you will see that it is full of contradiction and the person who wrote this book was psychatic sexually abusive person. And it all makes sense, 1400 years ago in the deserts of Saudi Arabia where flowers don’t even grow and one holds on to his urine just in case he/she might not find water…a place where only 1400 years ago they’d bury their child alive if it was a girl you, while next door in Persian Empire or the Roman Empire women where the rules and humanity lived under rule of the law what else can you accept from bunch of bedoine nomads?
    You can not find a single Muslim country where men/women live happy and equal. Islam is a sick religion…people of countries like Persia are sick and tired of Islam and they want to be relieved to be free again but their ruthless rules which are all devoted muslims have shattered their lives on daily basis.
    We here in the West need to focus on these issues and do something about it before we get to taste the poison ourselves! Don’t forget that over 1billion people on this planet are Muslims.
    Now I am not saying they are all bad, but majority is not educated enough or can not read and write Arabic and this is why once they can educate themselves and open their eyes to this reality they will run away and change their religion if they can, not to mention that once you become a Muslim you can not change your religion anymore or the reward for it is death penalty, now what kind of God would say something like that??
    Nick

  • Neek

    That’s right, according to their Holy Book Qoran, in the Soreh(chapter) of An-Nesah a men is twice worth a women, a women’s testimony is half the men worth, a man can marry up to 4 women if the first,second,third etc..all agree, if a man has maids in his house hold their all at his mercy in any way and form.
    A men’s wife is also at his mercy in any way and form, it says literary that a men can farm in his wife in anyway he wishes…
    If a men catches his wife cheating he can kill her right away but if a women catches her husband cheating on her she needs to have two of her closest male relatives or family to be standing there and witness, also they have to get a thread and try to see if it would pass between a men and a women’s private part while caught in action! and when so the men could be forgiven but a women gets stoned. That’s right this is called Islam and there are no different interpretations or else.A sentence has only one meaning and it can only be interpreted in one way. Islam is not a religion it is cult and it is all about sex, food, war and how to kill. If you have someone translate you Qoran you will see that it is full of contradiction and the person who wrote this book was psychatic sexually abusive person. And it all makes sense, 1400 years ago in the deserts of Saudi Arabia where flowers don’t even grow and one holds on to his urine just in case he/she might not find water…a place where only 1400 years ago they’d bury their child alive if it was a girl you, while next door in Persian Empire or the Roman Empire women where the rules and humanity lived under rule of the law what else can you accept from bunch of bedoine nomads?
    You can not find a single Muslim country where men/women live happy and equal. Islam is a sick religion…people of countries like Persia are sick and tired of Islam and they want to be relieved to be free again but their ruthless rules which are all devoted muslims have shattered their lives on daily basis.
    We here in the West need to focus on these issues and do something about it before we get to taste the poison ourselves! Don’t forget that over 1billion people on this planet are Muslims.
    Now I am not saying they are all bad, but majority is not educated enough or can not read and write Arabic and this is why once they can educate themselves and open their eyes to this reality they will run away and change their religion if they can, not to mention that once you become a Muslim you can not change your religion anymore or the reward for it is death penalty, now what kind of God would say something like that??
    Nick

  • sfdude_2008

    BTW, Tiara, I misunderstood your post a little bit cuz now I realized that it wasn’t you that had to endure this; it was that poor kid. Anyway, her so-called husband and dad should all be in jail!

  • sfdude_2008

    BTW, Tiara, I misunderstood your post a little bit cuz now I realized that it wasn’t you that had to endure this; it was that poor kid. Anyway, her so-called husband and dad should all be in jail!

  • sfdude_2008

    Wow, Tiara, your story makes me mad, too! You should tell someone about your so-called dad, not just this site. Maybe a bit of counselling might help you. I’m sorry about your forced marriage.

  • sfdude_2008

    Wow, Tiara, your story makes me mad, too! You should tell someone about your so-called dad, not just this site. Maybe a bit of counselling might help you. I’m sorry about your forced marriage.

  • Unna

    I wonder if the Judge has a daughter of his own.

    With stories like these and others involving FGM, why are people flocking to Islam like it’s the real deal? If anything, they should be flocking away from any and every religion.

    This stories grips my heart. Women in Saudi Arabia are treated like shoes. They’re sadly subjected to sub-human laws. What kind of a country is SA, when they deliberately allow their daughters to be raped by men fit to be grandfathers. You’re right, no amount of money can give them common sense. That’s no kingdom they are running, it’s the world’s largest women’s prison.

    I think I know why SA royals can’t see that this is wrong. When all their lives, Saudi men see women shrouded in black, having no visible identity, prohibited from exhibiting any real emotion, and given no freedom of their own, the average SA male would tend to think that women are nothing, and can feel nothing, and even if they could, it was not important or relevant.

  • Unna

    I wonder if the Judge has a daughter of his own.

    With stories like these and others involving FGM, why are people flocking to Islam like it’s the real deal? If anything, they should be flocking away from any and every religion.

    This stories grips my heart. Women in Saudi Arabia are treated like shoes. They’re sadly subjected to sub-human laws. What kind of a country is SA, when they deliberately allow their daughters to be raped by men fit to be grandfathers. You’re right, no amount of money can give them common sense. That’s no kingdom they are running, it’s the world’s largest women’s prison.

    I think I know why SA royals can’t see that this is wrong. When all their lives, Saudi men see women shrouded in black, having no visible identity, prohibited from exhibiting any real emotion, and given no freedom of their own, the average SA male would tend to think that women are nothing, and can feel nothing, and even if they could, it was not important or relevant.

  • Tiara

    Also, not sure if this is the same girl or not but here’s a quote from an 8 year old girl whose father married her off to a man 22 years her senior:

    My father beat me and told me that I must marry this man, and if I did not, I would be raped and no law and no sheikh in this country would help me. I refused but I couldn’t stop the marriage,” Nojoud Nasser told the Yemen Times. “I asked and begged my mother, father, and aunt to help me to get divorced. They answered, ‘We can do nothing. If you want you can go to court by yourself.’ So this is what I have done,” she said.

    Nasser said that she was exposed to sexual abuse and domestic violence by her husband. “He used to do bad things to me, and I had no idea as to what a marriage is. I would run from one room to another in order to escape, but in the end he would catch me and beat me and then continued to do what he wanted. I cried so much but no one listened to me. One day I ran away from him and came to the court and talked to them.”

    “Whenever I wanted to play in the yard he beat me and asked me to go to the bedroom with him. This lasted for two months,” added Nasser. “He was too tough with me, and whenever I asked him for mercy, he beat me and slapped me and then used me. I just want to have a respectful life and divorce him.”

  • Tiara

    Also, not sure if this is the same girl or not but here’s a quote from an 8 year old girl whose father married her off to a man 22 years her senior:

    My father beat me and told me that I must marry this man, and if I did not, I would be raped and no law and no sheikh in this country would help me. I refused but I couldn’t stop the marriage,” Nojoud Nasser told the Yemen Times. “I asked and begged my mother, father, and aunt to help me to get divorced. They answered, ‘We can do nothing. If you want you can go to court by yourself.’ So this is what I have done,” she said.

    Nasser said that she was exposed to sexual abuse and domestic violence by her husband. “He used to do bad things to me, and I had no idea as to what a marriage is. I would run from one room to another in order to escape, but in the end he would catch me and beat me and then continued to do what he wanted. I cried so much but no one listened to me. One day I ran away from him and came to the court and talked to them.”

    “Whenever I wanted to play in the yard he beat me and asked me to go to the bedroom with him. This lasted for two months,” added Nasser. “He was too tough with me, and whenever I asked him for mercy, he beat me and slapped me and then used me. I just want to have a respectful life and divorce him.”

  • Tiara

    Eeeeewwwwww. Dirty pervy vibes. Wasnt that sweet of the judge to order him to not have sex until after puberty. I wonder if that “pledge” is anything like “restraining orders” here, you know, a piece of paper with little meaning. Shoot him in the balls and call it a day.

  • Tiara

    Eeeeewwwwww. Dirty pervy vibes. Wasnt that sweet of the judge to order him to not have sex until after puberty. I wonder if that “pledge” is anything like “restraining orders” here, you know, a piece of paper with little meaning. Shoot him in the balls and call it a day.

  • sfdude_2008

    Mare, I agree and disagree with you. First of all, I am NOT a dude; I’M A GIRL.

    Second of all, Mare, Stop calling my comments “inflammatory”! That is NOT acceptable. I don’t like anyone that flames me cuz that pisses me off to no end.

    Third of all, this story is sick and I agree with you, too.

    As for you, Liz, I DID NOT say that I had “tolerance” fr the daughter being married off at age 8. That man is so disgusting and so is the man that the daughter was made to marry. LIZ NEEDS TO STOP FLAMING ME.

  • sfdude_2008

    Mare, I agree and disagree with you. First of all, I am NOT a dude; I’M A GIRL.

    Second of all, Mare, Stop calling my comments “inflammatory”! That is NOT acceptable. I don’t like anyone that flames me cuz that pisses me off to no end.

    Third of all, this story is sick and I agree with you, too.

    As for you, Liz, I DID NOT say that I had “tolerance” fr the daughter being married off at age 8. That man is so disgusting and so is the man that the daughter was made to marry. LIZ NEEDS TO STOP FLAMING ME.

  • Chris

    So he’ll start raping her at 11 instead of 8.
    Well that just makes all the difference doesn’t it!

  • Chris

    So he’ll start raping her at 11 instead of 8.
    Well that just makes all the difference doesn’t it!

  • http://worldfestivities.blogspot.com/ Ruth

    Yes,under the blanket of marriage children are abused in some countries,then it’s legal. But let’s be fair,this happens all over the world,I mean children are abused everyday in every corner of the world,so lets not be hypocritical. It doesn’t matter how you call it,if its legal or illegal,it happens,daily. In every corner of the world. Children are NOT allowed to be kids anymore,because the world is full of Sick ADULTS. People watch over your own kids!

  • http://worldfestivities.blogspot.com/ Ruth

    Yes,under the blanket of marriage children are abused in some countries,then it’s legal. But let’s be fair,this happens all over the world,I mean children are abused everyday in every corner of the world,so lets not be hypocritical. It doesn’t matter how you call it,if its legal or illegal,it happens,daily. In every corner of the world. Children are NOT allowed to be kids anymore,because the world is full of Sick ADULTS. People watch over your own kids!

  • Mare

    Well, despite sfdude’s inflammatory commentary… I agree with him. I have daughters, and I would seriously warn them away from dating or marrying an Islamic man – it’s just too dangerous. Also, may I point out that puberty can happen as young as 8 (maybe even earlier!) and that it happens most often at 12. Think about it. If a 50 year old man had sex with a 12 year old in North America, we call that Child Rape, married or no.

    Sick, sick, sick.

  • Mare

    Well, despite sfdude’s inflammatory commentary… I agree with him. I have daughters, and I would seriously warn them away from dating or marrying an Islamic man – it’s just too dangerous. Also, may I point out that puberty can happen as young as 8 (maybe even earlier!) and that it happens most often at 12. Think about it. If a 50 year old man had sex with a 12 year old in North America, we call that Child Rape, married or no.

    Sick, sick, sick.

  • http://www.kapgar.com kapgar

    I think it’s Hasenfefer Incorporated. Gotta make him taxable since we can’t hold him liable. ;-)

  • http://www.kapgar.com/ kapgar

    I think it’s Hasenfefer Incorporated. Gotta make him taxable since we can’t hold him liable. ;-)

  • Liz

    This story is pretty disgusting but I can’t belive the amount of ~tolerance~ sfdude has. MAN! :\

  • Liz

    This story is pretty disgusting but I can’t belive the amount of ~tolerance~ sfdude has. MAN! :

  • sfdude_2008

    Evil Muslim men! I hope those Muslim jerks go to prison for marrying off that poor kid! Even that stupid fat so-called judge should be sacked forever! My mother had always told me more than once that Muslims are very mean to the girls and women, even going so far into beating the shit out of their wives and daughters!

  • sfdude_2008

    Evil Muslim men! I hope those Muslim jerks go to prison for marrying off that poor kid! Even that stupid fat so-called judge should be sacked forever! My mother had always told me more than once that Muslims are very mean to the girls and women, even going so far into beating the shit out of their wives and daughters!