Mesa stripper left kids in filthy home
Police: Children resorted to eating dog food:
Actually the dog food part turned out to be inaccurate but that still doesn’t change everything else that is said to have happened.
Anyway 20-year-old Mesa, Arizona stripper Samantha Abernathy was arrested for allegedly leaving her 1 and 3-year-old children home alone starting at 2am. Police were called at 7:45 am for reports of the kids runing around the apartment complex.
When police arrived they found the kids’ room stained with urine and feces.
The baby daddies didn’t arrive until 10am and stripper mom herself didn’t arrive until 10:45am. She claimed that the she was in Phoenix helping her boyfriend. There is some dispute to what was in the fridge but what is known is that there was little food in the house and there was a lock on the fridge. The dog however did have plenty of food. No word on what kind of dog it was.
Now I’ve known a few strippers in my time and they probably made more in a month than I do in a year. Half of them were very responsible with their money with some of them even sending their own kids to private schools, which I may or may not have helped to fund. The other half were constantly broke where the money was either going up their nose or supporting an unemployed penis.
It seems like that Ms. Abernathy could fall into that second half.
Thanks to Bridget for the tip.
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June 16th, 2009 at 7:58 pm
Seems to me she should give up her rights to those two children and be fixed so she cannot create anymore children that she will fail to take care of
as always Trench – thx for the reporting
June 16th, 2009 at 8:13 pm
Not reporting, just commenting.
June 16th, 2009 at 8:16 pm
Yes commenting – TY for this venue to comment
June 16th, 2009 at 8:50 pm
“Now I’ve known a few strippers in my time and they probably made more in a month than I do in a year. Half of them were very responsible with their money with some of them even sending their own kids to private schools, which I may or may not have helped to fund. The other half were constantly broke where the money was either going up their nose or supporting an unemployed penis.”
Yeah? Most of the strippers I know are Lesbians with coke problems. But I’m from Jersey
June 16th, 2009 at 8:58 pm
Me too but South Jersey. We have a better class of stripper. *lol*
June 17th, 2009 at 9:22 am
I’ve seen both:
The total meth head kids running around playing with feces balls.
The chick who strips and has a day job and is more responsible with her money than I am
Crazy world huh? Plus, I am from Philly.
June 17th, 2009 at 9:38 am
UGH she totally needs to change her name. She is not worthy of being a Samantha.
June 17th, 2009 at 9:52 am
A one year old and a three year old home alone? In what alternate reality does one even begin to think that this might work out well for them? The far off Land of Denial? The lost continent of I’m A Stupid Whore? Meth Mountain?
Jeez, people – if you don’t have a brain of your own, at least borrow one from a friend or relative occasionally….
“Hi, Mom?”
“Yes, Dear?”
‘I’m gonna go out and leave the kids home alone…do you think that’s a good idea?”
“No, Dear, probably not.”
“OK, thanks, Mom. Should I take them with me then?”
“That depends on what you’re going out for, Dear. If you’re going to strip or buy drugs, that’s probably not a good idea, either.”
“OK, I’ll call a sitter then. Maybe my druggie boyfriend will do it….”
And the cycle of abuse continues…….AAARRRRGGGGGHHHHHH!!!!
June 17th, 2009 at 11:13 am
LOL….you’re killing me angel….unfortunately, stripper’s mom….probably raised her the same way. conversation might go like this:
“yo bitch”
“hey slut puppy”
“I’m gonna go out and leave the kids home alone…do you think that’s a good idea?”
“excellent idea!!! those brats of yours are always whining about something to eat or drink…and no offense baby, but they smell really bad”
“yeah, they’re a real pain in the ass. wanna go with me”
“you scoring?”
“yeah, but i gotta stop by T’s place and give him a quicky”
“hey, you think he’d let me too? i need some cash”
“maybe, if not he has a dog and a web cam”
“cool”
June 17th, 2009 at 11:15 am
scene 2, act 1: shocked look on mom’s face when she gets home and not only finds the police waiting for her but those darn kids ate all the dog’s food and now she has to make another run to aldi’s for more.
June 17th, 2009 at 11:38 am
hahahahahaha
wow!
June 17th, 2009 at 11:49 am
It would be funny if it wasn’t so true. I’m not as upset about the 2 y/o heading for the dogfood bag as I am that she left them home alone…. where no one could save them if a fire broke out… or one climbed in the toilet (yes, kids do that)… or decided to give each other a bath… or fell down a flight of steps… or rolled off a bed and cracked a head open on the night stand… or found mom’s stash and decided to try some… or… well, you get it. My sister is an excellent mother and her toddler is always trying to eat dog food (and cat food too). Trust me, she feeds her kids. Toddlers are notorious for eating anything they pick up. But, the kids in the story were LEFT HOME ALONE WITH NO PEOPLE FOOD and no one to make sure they stayed safe. This “mother” disgusts me.
June 17th, 2009 at 12:30 pm
karen that was classic!
Great just great I tell ya!
June 17th, 2009 at 12:32 pm
especially with the youngest being only 1 year old. they’re usually not very coordinated at that age and have no idea what can hurt them. the whole situation is sad. we just seem to be seeing more and more parents leaving the kids alone for extended periods of time. if they think the kids are “ok” left alone….what kind of supervision do they get when mom is home? probably ZERO. i know i seem to repeat myself but turn them over to dcs…..or neighbors, report them…immediately. if it’s unsubstantiated, so be it…but at least you tried.
June 17th, 2009 at 12:40 pm
hi samantha. how are you?
kathy…believe me…i know about kids and pet food!!! if my twins weren’t eating the cat and dog food when they were little, they were dropping hands full of it in the water and watching it swell. dog and cat used to leave the phone number for the local humane society on my pillow at night. i think they wanted to leave.
it got to the point where the cat had to eat downstairs and the dog had to have her food outside. no matter how many times i’d tell them “no no…acky…not nice” they’d still do it. of course, they used to give the dog their food so i guess they figured it all evened out.
kathy, don’t you just want to rescue each and everyone of these little ones we read about….bath them; clothe them; feed them; rock them; give them a nice long nap in a clean warm bed….and then come up with a plan to undo all the injustices they’ve suffered? if only we had the opportunity and resources to save them all.
June 17th, 2009 at 12:47 pm
karen, you funny girl!!!!
(that must be why you’re daddy’s favorite!) lol thanks for making me smile in an otherwise sucky day.
June 17th, 2009 at 12:50 pm
I used to eat dry dog food when I was a kid. I admit it. It was cool to go out to my grandparents farm, he always had huge bags of dog food and we would munch on it.
Maybe thats whats wrong with me now??
June 17th, 2009 at 12:54 pm
thanks angel…..so are you!!!
samantha: i always wondered how it tastes….is it good? are you healthy now? was there a particular brand you were fond of? did it make your teeth stronger? maybe the kids are onto something here.
June 17th, 2009 at 1:12 pm
karen….my three year old son STILL gets into the dog food. It must be really good, too, because he hides ’stashes’ of it throughout the house so that he can have a snack whenever he wants to. He’s also quite fond of Milkbones. The amount of people food you give a kid makes absolutely no difference – if they decide they like the dog food, they’re gonna eat it unless you keep it under lock and key. And that can’t be accomplished here, because I don’t have the time to monitor my dogs while they eat and put up their ‘leftovers’ as soon as they’re done….so my boy will go and take food from their bowls, anyway. It doesn’t seem to hurt him, other than his new habit of barking and chasing cats. LOL.
June 17th, 2009 at 1:13 pm
haha i dont really remember it was a LONG time ago. Must not have been too bad though cause I kept doing it! Im sure he just had the cheapy stuff, I dont know. Im pretty healthy haha… physically but not mentally!
June 17th, 2009 at 1:18 pm
But I wouldnt recommend that diet for any kiddos out there!
June 17th, 2009 at 1:21 pm
I dunno….his barking IS kinda cute…….
June 17th, 2009 at 2:47 pm
Yes, Karen, I do. But, for what purpose? The majority just right back into the mess. One of my former foster kids ended up in my mom’s 4th grade class. This was a kid I had to have moved because the father was literally going to shoot us. He lost custody. Kid went to the mother who didn’t want him and had left him behind in the first place. That didn’t work out. Went to a grandmother. She couldn’t handle him so she gave him back to CPS. Went to another foster home. So, my mom is telling me about this kid in her class who has behavior pbms… dad in/out of mental facilities… bounced all over… etc. Then tells me that the kid looks at his classmates and asks them if they want to watch him kill himself, at which point he picks up the scissors they were using in art and starts sawing at his throat. Luckily the scissors were closed and not sharp. Mom said his first name, I pulled out a pic of the kid from when he was 5, and it was the same kid. 5 years later. bigger mess than when I had him. So, the nurturing, love, safe environment, etc. provided for several months, didn’t make a bit of a difference. I think the kid is now in a group home somewhere. And, he’ll probably end up institutionalized just like good ‘ole dad.
Sometimes I get tired of giving kids a taste of decency only to have it snatched away from them. Or, maybe I’m just ticked off that the parent of my current foster placement. Wow, I’ve become quite the grouch lately.
June 17th, 2009 at 2:53 pm
its a very understandable grouch though kathy.
June 17th, 2009 at 3:36 pm
It isn’t just strippers–and this kind of thing isn’t new. My mother worked at Hardees and left five days a week to go to work while my father was at school leaving me, a four year old, in charge of my two year old sister. When she returned, the house was frequently trashed, leading her to beat the shit out of said sister and sometimes me if I had joined in the mess making. Children should never be left alone–but I’m still not sure what parents are supposed to do when they can’t afford rent and there is no family to pick up the slack. I’m sure her earnings mainly went to support their weed habit–but poverty is something that needs to be addressed here: which is worse, leaving the kids alone to work to make rent or living homeless with your family? That doesn’t sound like much of a choice (apparently welfare wasn’t an option for married people, even in the 80s).
June 17th, 2009 at 5:44 pm
layla…i’m so sorry for what you had to go through. to answer your question…neither one is good for anybody involved. now days, things are easier. in many states, there are programs sponsered and paid for through the state that will pay for the daycare of the children so the parents can work. there’s subsidized housing; job training to increase take home pay; food stamps; free insurance with transportation to and from the dr. and pharmacy; utility assistance; thrift stores that sell very nice clothing for pennies; vouchers for clothing; free text book assitance and free breakfast and lunch at school…the list goes on and on. in this day and age, there’s no reason for a mother to have to strip for a living. if the money’s so great and there’s plenty to go around, then why is there no food in the house and no money for a sitter?
i don’t know what your parents’ circumstances were, and i’m sorry for the bad memories you carry with you. i’m sorry that she felt a 2 year old baby should be able to keep the house clean and not make a mess when left in the care of a 4 year old toddler. i’m sorry she hurt both of you. i wish you had been my little girl…..so you would have felt safe and secure and known what it was like to be a carefree little girl.
June 17th, 2009 at 5:57 pm
kathy….let’s face it…as foster parents we GET GRUMPY. there’s so much to take in…the child and the child’s behavior/issues related to the reason for their removal. the parents that we deal with. sometimes, the way dcs handles things. plus, we get tired!!!! it sounds like you’re suffering from foster parent burn out. not that it’s related to just one case but everything we have to hear and see over a period of time. i don’t know about you, but being a seasoned foster/adoptive parent doesn’t make me numb to the circumstances….each and every child/case gets to me in one way or another. i’ve been fortunate with most of my children…either they’ve been long term and i was able to adopt them or the ones that went home to whomever have parents that keep in touch with me and i can rest assured they’re being cared for. some….i don’t know.
June 17th, 2009 at 8:10 pm
sorry, i had to end that abruptly. kathy, you asked for what? because they might be returned to the same mess?
yes, sometimes they are. but stop and think about it kathy….for that one week…or month…or year…you were able to stop the insanity. you were able to stop the pain and neglect. you were able to give them a taste of what real life is like. you were the one, if never again, that was there for them.do you think that doesn’t make an impression on a child? do you think that it doesn’t leave a permanent memory in their little minds? even if they do have to return home…..at least you were able to comfort them for a short time and let them know that life as they have lived it is not the norm…there’s a different and better way.
just like we’re taking chances every time we get a call…that we just might fall in love with the child placed in our care…and have our hearts broken into a zillion little pieces if or when they’re removed. after several times of that happening to me, i would tell myself “i can’t do this any more. it hurts too much. why would i continue to put myself through this pain?” then i remember, my pain is nothing compared to what these tiny little people have experienced. i tell myself i won’t love the next one. i’ll care for them and meet all their needs and let THEM think we’ve bonded, but i won’t get close. then that next child comes and is so needy in so many ways. i can’t help but bond with them and love them. i pray that if the day comes that i lose my little angel God will send a guardian angel to watch over them and keep them safe.
kathy, fostering a child or children isn’t for everyone. it’s a tough job. i think through reading your comments over time i’ve come to know you and your passion for children. we’re their voice kathy…we’re the ones that can stand up for them in court and make sure they’re heard. if we don’t do it…..who will? who will save the children?
June 18th, 2009 at 10:31 am
Karen, I know… I’m not burned out. Just frustrated. It’s heart-wrenching to hear that a child you cared for and loved was trying to kill himself in front of an audience… a child that was only 10 y/o. It’s hard to read this site. But, I READ this site because it reminds me of why I do what I do. SOMEONE needs to advocate for the children… just like you said. But, sometimes it seems that no matter how much effort we put into “saving” the children, they get lost/hurt/discarded/killed any way.
Tonight is going to be heartbreaking. My current child has a visit with his birth mothers. S’posed to have a bday party for him (the caseworker already told him he was having a party). She’s told the caseworker yesterday that she couldn’t get around to getting him anything, so she’s not going to have a party. He’s a 7 y/o child. He truly does not grasp the idea that his mother no longer loves him and doesn’t want him (her words, not mine). How could he understand that? So, no party… no presents (from her)… no visit with his brothers… no love. nothing. It simply makes me sad. He’s a good kid. He’s got so much potential. He’s this beautiful bud just waiting to blossom into the most magnificent flower. And, we’re trying so hard to keep idiots from cutting him down. But, it seems every time we look away, there’s another nick, another piece ripped away. As you know, it’s hard to watch kids go through stuff like this.
Ok, enough. Shake it off… shake it off… It’s all better now. I should get back to work.
June 18th, 2009 at 12:58 pm
That would be hard Kathy… At least he has you.
And tell him all your girls here at PBB wish him a wonderful happy bday too!
June 18th, 2009 at 5:03 pm
@Rigatoni Rasta:
“I’ve seen both:
The total meth head kids running around playing with feces balls.
The chick who strips and has a day job and is more responsible with her money than I am
Crazy world huh? Plus, I am from Philly.”
Excuse me, are you saying that those kids were really meth-headed and playing with feces balls? And that that so-called mother was more responsible about money than you are? Well, I hope you’re just joking.
June 18th, 2009 at 7:10 pm
SF, Honey, you really need to improve your reading comprehension skills…..
June 20th, 2009 at 11:20 pm
@Rigatoni Rasta Have you ever been to the Red Raven?
June 20th, 2009 at 11:29 pm
@kathy: i know….it’s hard. i hope you’re feeling better and that your little guy was too heart broken. are you considering adopting him if they TPR?
June 20th, 2009 at 11:30 pm
geeeeeeeeeeesh, i meant “wasn’t too heart broken”
June 21st, 2009 at 12:08 am
Sometimes, Angel, I misspell words, but I don’t misspell them on purpose.
June 21st, 2009 at 2:30 am
I’d like to address the poverty question a bit if I may. First of all, the single best predictor of whether or not a kid will grow up in poverty is whether that kid is being raised by a single mother; children of single mothers are vastly more likely to be raised in poverty. I guess it’s old-fashioned to think people might consider whether they can really afford the cost of raising kids *before* they have them, but that would be ideal.
Second, I grew up really poor. My mom was a single mother for a while, then it was her and my stepdad both going to college full time *and* both working jobs full time. And I really have no patience for parents who use poverty or their job/school schedules as an excuse. Sometimes, yes, I had to go to college classes with one or the other of them. They had to schedule their work schedules opposite each other so that one of them was always home to take care of me. I don’t remember all of it, because I was little, and I’m sure it was tremendously hard on both of them (and especially on my mom, especially when she was a single mom, although one of my aunts lived with us for a while during those days, too), but that’s the responsibility you take on when you decide to become a parent. I had crappy clothes most of the time, and we ate cheap food (though they always made sure I had a good, balanced diet, too), and we didn’t get a color TV until I was 12 or something, and my mom says there were months when she would pay the bills and then balance her checkbook and find that the money was already gone before she had even bought groceries, but it would never, ever, have occurred to my parents to leave me alone when I was little (of course, it also did not occur to them to beat me for making a mess or for any other reason). It can be done.
Actually, I guess my husband and I are kind of doing it now. I stay home full time so that we don’t have to pay for babysitting, and then I work part time, online, only when my kids are asleep or being cared for by my husband/their father. I lose a lot of sleep, and my husband and I unfortunately lose some time together, but our kids are always well cared for.
But then again, we have never had a pit bull…
June 22nd, 2009 at 2:56 pm
SF, I wasn’t talking about your spelling, I was talking about your interpretation of comments you read, and how you respond to them. Spelling has nothing to do with comprehension.
Eye kan unnerstand thes sintince, evan thoe it is komppleetlee misspeeled. Kin ewe, Lisa, or April, or karen, or anyone?
Sometimes I don’t think you understand what the comments you respond to really mean, SF. I think you are sweet, but I also think you need to pay closer attention to what you read and the context in which it is used. That’s all I’m saying….