Bad Breeders

I swear I don’t understand this nonsense. This is the first time I am posting to a story, but I come on this website all the time…for what? I simply don’t know. These damn stories horrify me. Is it seriously mental instability? or some type of defect going on the brain? I just don’t understand how FREAKING ADULTS CAN HARM CHILDREN!!!! OMG!! I have a 2 year old daughter, and I will be damned if I let anyone harm her, let alone talk to her in a disrespectful manner. I love my daughter with all I have, and would give anything in the world for her happiness; I just don’t understand why all humans/parents don’t feel the same way.

I swear I don’t understand this nonsense. This is the first time I am posting to a story, but I come on this website all the time…for what? I simply don’t know. These damn stories horrify me. Is it seriously mental instability? or some type of defect going on the brain? I just don’t understand how FREAKING ADULTS CAN HARM CHILDREN!!!! OMG!! I have a 2 year old daughter, and I will be damned if I let anyone harm her, let alone talk to her in a disrespectful manner. I love my daughter with all I have, and would give anything in the world for her happiness; I just don’t understand why all humans/parents don’t feel the same way.

Deuce:

The people who do things like this to children qualify as neither parents, NOR human. I’m pretty sure they don’t even qualify as people. They are animals, and should be euthanized just as you would a dog who attacked someone. They have NO redeeming qualities…..

This story should also be a lesson to men out there who are divorced with children. DO NOT leave your kids with a new girlfriend. Just because she’s female doesn’t mean that she has maternal instincts…or morals…or a soul.

Who turned this worthless individual in? I hope it was the kids’ dad. And I hope he kicked her ass first. Throw her in gen.pop. in the men’s prison. She’ll have plenty of toys to choose from there.

Deuce:

The people who do things like this to children qualify as neither parents, NOR human. I’m pretty sure they don’t even qualify as people. They are animals, and should be euthanized just as you would a dog who attacked someone. They have NO redeeming qualities…..

This story should also be a lesson to men out there who are divorced with children. DO NOT leave your kids with a new girlfriend. Just because she’s female doesn’t mean that she has maternal instincts…or morals…or a soul.

Who turned this worthless individual in? I hope it was the kids’ dad. And I hope he kicked her ass first. Throw her in gen.pop. in the men’s prison. She’ll have plenty of toys to choose from there.

She’ll plead that she was sexually assaulted/molested as a child and that she’s not responsible for her own actions.

I say she’s just as responsible as any boyfriend would be in the same situation. I’m so sad for those children.

She’ll plead that she was sexually assaulted/molested as a child and that she’s not responsible for her own actions.

I say she’s just as responsible as any boyfriend would be in the same situation. I’m so sad for those children.

I think that people who are sexually abused as kids, and then grow up and sexually abuse other kids, should be punished TWICE AS HARSHLY, as people who were not abused as kids. Because they damn well KNEW the damage such behavior would cause! They shouldn’t be able to use such bullsh** as an excuse, the DA should be able to use it to strengthen his or her case against the abuser.

I think that people who are sexually abused as kids, and then grow up and sexually abuse other kids, should be punished TWICE AS HARSHLY, as people who were not abused as kids. Because they damn well KNEW the damage such behavior would cause! They shouldn’t be able to use such bullsh** as an excuse, the DA should be able to use it to strengthen his or her case against the abuser.

Ah, but the abused will claim that the harm affected their ability to discern right from wrong. Because such things happened to them, they repeat the behavior on others to create a sense of normalcy in their lives. It’s that constant cycle of crap that gets documented in so many pyschology books.

I’m with you. It’s better to learn from life and improve than to simply repeat it and blame your actions on everyone but yourself.

Ah, but the abused will claim that the harm affected their ability to discern right from wrong. Because such things happened to them, they repeat the behavior on others to create a sense of normalcy in their lives. It’s that constant cycle of crap that gets documented in so many pyschology books.

I’m with you. It’s better to learn from life and improve than to simply repeat it and blame your actions on everyone but yourself.

Psychobabble Bullsh**! These people who blame others for their own warped actions make me sick!
I think that in order to use such a defense, the defending attorney should have to prove that a MAJORITY of people who were themselves abused as children, grew up and did the same thing…..They can’t do it! Most people who were abused as children REFUSE to do the same to their kids, BECAUSE they know how devastating it is.

Using the logic “They did it to me, so I can’t help myself, and should not be held accountable”, is tantamount to handing out an ‘anything goes’ card. If we have to excuse these animals because 1% of childhood victims grow up and abuse their own kids…..then we will eventually have to use the same reasoning in other areas of society, as well. Since 1% of dogs are going to turn on their owners and bite or kill them, then we should euthanize all dogs. Since 1% of people who drink will get behind the wheel of a car and drive drunk, then we should ban all alcohol (which might or might not be a good thing…but I digress). Since 20% of drivers will be involved in a wreck causing serious injury or death at some point during their lifetime, then we should scrap all of the cars, and go back to the horse and buggy. Twisted logic is what is being used to free these child predators, and the judicial system is buying into it……swallowing it – hook, line, and sinker. Blecht!

Psychobabble Bullsh**! These people who blame others for their own warped actions make me sick!
I think that in order to use such a defense, the defending attorney should have to prove that a MAJORITY of people who were themselves abused as children, grew up and did the same thing…..They can’t do it! Most people who were abused as children REFUSE to do the same to their kids, BECAUSE they know how devastating it is.

Using the logic “They did it to me, so I can’t help myself, and should not be held accountable”, is tantamount to handing out an ‘anything goes’ card. If we have to excuse these animals because 1% of childhood victims grow up and abuse their own kids…..then we will eventually have to use the same reasoning in other areas of society, as well. Since 1% of dogs are going to turn on their owners and bite or kill them, then we should euthanize all dogs. Since 1% of people who drink will get behind the wheel of a car and drive drunk, then we should ban all alcohol (which might or might not be a good thing…but I digress). Since 20% of drivers will be involved in a wreck causing serious injury or death at some point during their lifetime, then we should scrap all of the cars, and go back to the horse and buggy. Twisted logic is what is being used to free these child predators, and the judicial system is buying into it……swallowing it – hook, line, and sinker. Blecht!

Would like to be locked in a room with her for an hour. An hour is all I’d need… Then the rest of you could have sea cow.

Would like to be locked in a room with her for an hour. An hour is all I’d need… Then the rest of you could have sea cow.

Any type of abuse toward helpless children, should not be tolerated ever. End of story. This woman is sick, not much more needs to be said. She did what she did, it was unacceptable. It just seems a lot of these parents will leave their babies with their girlfriend or boyfriend out of necessity yet they don’t know them well enough. Dad should be held accountable too, they are his responsibilty and it is up to him to make sure they are in good hands when he’s not around. Angel I agree with you. While I do agree that the way a person is raised has a huge impact on how they function as an adult, it’s still not an excuse either.

Any type of abuse toward helpless children, should not be tolerated ever. End of story. This woman is sick, not much more needs to be said. She did what she did, it was unacceptable. It just seems a lot of these parents will leave their babies with their girlfriend or boyfriend out of necessity yet they don’t know them well enough. Dad should be held accountable too, they are his responsibilty and it is up to him to make sure they are in good hands when he’s not around. Angel I agree with you. While I do agree that the way a person is raised has a huge impact on how they function as an adult, it’s still not an excuse either.

I know gender should make no difference, but most people would leave their children with a woman over a man. And I’m sure their father never thought if someone was going to sexually assault his children, that they’d have a vagina. Poor bastard.

I know gender should make no difference, but most people would leave their children with a woman over a man. And I’m sure their father never thought if someone was going to sexually assault his children, that they’d have a vagina. Poor bastard.

I believe the sea cow should be stripped and thrown naked into the men’s prison. She should know the violation that those children felt. WHORE!

I believe the sea cow should be stripped and thrown naked into the men’s prison. She should know the violation that those children felt. WHORE!

Yeah, it’s a brave new world out there. Equal opportunity child abusers. You’re right, Sallow, gender should make no difference…especially in the sentencing phase of the trial, but unfortunately, it often does. Women are much less likely to get harsh sentences than men. I think they should all be locked up and the key thrown away. Or killed. Killed works for me.

Yeah, it’s a brave new world out there. Equal opportunity child abusers. You’re right, Sallow, gender should make no difference…especially in the sentencing phase of the trial, but unfortunately, it often does. Women are much less likely to get harsh sentences than men. I think they should all be locked up and the key thrown away. Or killed. Killed works for me.

What a stepmonster….beyond words

What a stepmonster….beyond words

what a sick bitch. may she be mounted with a toilet plunger up the ass and hung by her toes to burn at the eternal fires of HELL.

what a sick bitch. may she be mounted with a toilet plunger up the ass and hung by her toes to burn at the eternal fires of HELL.

That is one fucked up story!!!

Angel and Kathy: I’ve got personal experience on this one: my mother was raped for years by her grandfather when she was a child, and I believe a half-brother as well. I never really got the story (and didn’t really want the parts I got), but it turned her into a complete disaster of a person and a REALLY shitty parent. The kind of damage sexual abuse does leads to all kinds of intergenerational child abuse–maybe not sexual abuse the next time, but drug or alcohol abuse to blot out the memories, or bad perception of boundaries (because theirs were violated), violence, BPD, home alone because they don’t trust anyone to watch the kids because they couldn’t even trust their own family, etc.

The nasty thing is, most of the idiots who end up on this site were probably abused or neglected as kids, but they aren’t objects of pity when they repeat the cycle. My biggest fear is that I will turn into my mother–I’m constantly checking in with parenting articles, classes, here, etc. so I can try to figure out what a normal household looks like vis-a-vis an unstable one.

That woman probably did suffer through horrors as a child and never told a soul–and now the hell will pass on and possibly repeat itself again. Shame.

That is one fucked up story!!!

Angel and Kathy: I’ve got personal experience on this one: my mother was raped for years by her grandfather when she was a child, and I believe a half-brother as well. I never really got the story (and didn’t really want the parts I got), but it turned her into a complete disaster of a person and a REALLY shitty parent. The kind of damage sexual abuse does leads to all kinds of intergenerational child abuse–maybe not sexual abuse the next time, but drug or alcohol abuse to blot out the memories, or bad perception of boundaries (because theirs were violated), violence, BPD, home alone because they don’t trust anyone to watch the kids because they couldn’t even trust their own family, etc.

The nasty thing is, most of the idiots who end up on this site were probably abused or neglected as kids, but they aren’t objects of pity when they repeat the cycle. My biggest fear is that I will turn into my mother–I’m constantly checking in with parenting articles, classes, here, etc. so I can try to figure out what a normal household looks like vis-a-vis an unstable one.

That woman probably did suffer through horrors as a child and never told a soul–and now the hell will pass on and possibly repeat itself again. Shame.

Layla, Thank you for that. I am SOO sorry for that, it’s just like alcoholism, it becomes systemic and causes ruination unless someone within the cycle makes a decision to get help and stop the cycle. My heart goes out to you and I pray God will clean those people of their diseases and distortion.
I applaud your courage in speaking openly about this, because you need to know that there are caring people and THAT YOU ARE NOT ALONE. I pray God richly blesses and heals all concerned, Rest on that and take care of yourself.
Your evaluation and awareness of this will not lead you into their path, it will cause you to try you best NOT to be like them, because you recognize it and therefore will resist it and do what you have to do to not allow it into your life.
You sound like a grounded person. Godspeed to YOU! truly, Kathy

Layla, Thank you for that. I am SOO sorry for that, it’s just like alcoholism, it becomes systemic and causes ruination unless someone within the cycle makes a decision to get help and stop the cycle. My heart goes out to you and I pray God will clean those people of their diseases and distortion.
I applaud your courage in speaking openly about this, because you need to know that there are caring people and THAT YOU ARE NOT ALONE. I pray God richly blesses and heals all concerned, Rest on that and take care of yourself.
Your evaluation and awareness of this will not lead you into their path, it will cause you to try you best NOT to be like them, because you recognize it and therefore will resist it and do what you have to do to not allow it into your life.
You sound like a grounded person. Godspeed to YOU! truly, Kathy

P.S. Shame is something that should “be checked at the door”. Just because this evil thing occurred in your family doesn’t mean you should share in ANY shame.

P.S. Shame is something that should “be checked at the door”. Just because this evil thing occurred in your family doesn’t mean you should share in ANY shame.

Layla:

I understand your worries and fears, and let me tell you – you CAN break the cycle. I was sexually abused by my mother’s father from my earliest memories until I was 12 years old. I was physically and psychologically abused by my father until I was 15. My mother stood by and let it happen. She would let my dad use me as a punching bag, because SHE was afraid of him. I look back on my childhood, and thank God every day that He brought me through it, and gave me the strength to break the cycle.

I have six children, and not a single one of them has ever been abused. My oldest is in college, and she called me just a few months ago talking to me about her boyfriend of almost two years. She told me that if she ever married, and had kids, she wanted to make sure I lived close enough to help her raise them, because, “you are the best example of what a good mommy should be.” I cried. I have never heard more beautiful words in my life. I thought to myself, “I guess this means I did it right.”

I have spent most of my adult life second guessing myself, and worrying that I would one day turn into my father – or worse. My child has calmed my fears.

You have a good heart, Layla – and from your comments on this site, I can see that you truly WANT to be the best person you can be – the best PARENT you can be. You want your kids to have it better than you did. For that reason alone, you have a better chance than most of breaking the cycle yourself.

I believe that abused children who grow up and become abusers themselves are selfish. It may sound mean to say this, but I believe those who willingly repeat the cycle (and it IS done willingly – there are simply too many services available to help abuse victims for it to be considered an accident) deserve no pity at all. They, because of their first hand knowledge of abuse, should know better than anyone not to harm a child.

Layla, you do NOT have to turn into your mother – I didn’t turn into my father. Breaking the cycle is possible, and in fact, I think that there are probably more childhood abuse survivors who BREAK the cycle than those who repeat it. That makes the “poor me, I was abused too” defense even more unbelievable, and on more than one level.

God bless you, Layla, and I have confidence that you will be able to break the cycle as well, and your children will know love, instead of fear and betrayal. The fact that you WANT to give better than you got makes all the difference, and your kids will know that, and love you even more.

Layla:

I understand your worries and fears, and let me tell you – you CAN break the cycle. I was sexually abused by my mother’s father from my earliest memories until I was 12 years old. I was physically and psychologically abused by my father until I was 15. My mother stood by and let it happen. She would let my dad use me as a punching bag, because SHE was afraid of him. I look back on my childhood, and thank God every day that He brought me through it, and gave me the strength to break the cycle.

I have six children, and not a single one of them has ever been abused. My oldest is in college, and she called me just a few months ago talking to me about her boyfriend of almost two years. She told me that if she ever married, and had kids, she wanted to make sure I lived close enough to help her raise them, because, “you are the best example of what a good mommy should be.” I cried. I have never heard more beautiful words in my life. I thought to myself, “I guess this means I did it right.”

I have spent most of my adult life second guessing myself, and worrying that I would one day turn into my father – or worse. My child has calmed my fears.

You have a good heart, Layla – and from your comments on this site, I can see that you truly WANT to be the best person you can be – the best PARENT you can be. You want your kids to have it better than you did. For that reason alone, you have a better chance than most of breaking the cycle yourself.

I believe that abused children who grow up and become abusers themselves are selfish. It may sound mean to say this, but I believe those who willingly repeat the cycle (and it IS done willingly – there are simply too many services available to help abuse victims for it to be considered an accident) deserve no pity at all. They, because of their first hand knowledge of abuse, should know better than anyone not to harm a child.

Layla, you do NOT have to turn into your mother – I didn’t turn into my father. Breaking the cycle is possible, and in fact, I think that there are probably more childhood abuse survivors who BREAK the cycle than those who repeat it. That makes the “poor me, I was abused too” defense even more unbelievable, and on more than one level.

God bless you, Layla, and I have confidence that you will be able to break the cycle as well, and your children will know love, instead of fear and betrayal. The fact that you WANT to give better than you got makes all the difference, and your kids will know that, and love you even more.

Layla, I agree with Angel. The very fact that you DON’T want to be your mother will probably ensure that you are NOT like her. My mom, too, suffered from sexual/physical abuse as a child from her father. I think her sisters did too (assuming so because one chose to end her life at a young age and the other had drug issues). My mom ended up pregnant with me when she was a teen. She dropped out of high school to get married and basically escape from her home life. SHE decided she needed to break the cycle. She got her GED and scored at college level. She went back to school (around 30 y/o) and got an undergraduate and grad degree and is now a teacher. She overcame her past to become a respectible adult who would not abuse nor allow anyone else to abuse her kids.

There are TOO MANY examples of people who overcome horrific events to lead “normal” lives without harming anyone. I’m sorry if this woman was abused as a child, but I cannot cut her slack for abusing children. I can, however, pray for her to repent and find help through a relationship with God.

Layla, I agree with Angel. The very fact that you DON’T want to be your mother will probably ensure that you are NOT like her. My mom, too, suffered from sexual/physical abuse as a child from her father. I think her sisters did too (assuming so because one chose to end her life at a young age and the other had drug issues). My mom ended up pregnant with me when she was a teen. She dropped out of high school to get married and basically escape from her home life. SHE decided she needed to break the cycle. She got her GED and scored at college level. She went back to school (around 30 y/o) and got an undergraduate and grad degree and is now a teacher. She overcame her past to become a respectible adult who would not abuse nor allow anyone else to abuse her kids.

There are TOO MANY examples of people who overcome horrific events to lead “normal” lives without harming anyone. I’m sorry if this woman was abused as a child, but I cannot cut her slack for abusing children. I can, however, pray for her to repent and find help through a relationship with God.

Angel, Thank you for sharing that. I am so sorry that you lived that nightmare. Child abuse is all too common and we, the ones with a heart for this issue, must stick together to get the awareness out there, and also to get petitions, legislature to fund Child Protective Agencies much better. That is usually the common problem in most child abuse deaths, there was something in the system that went over-looked. The child paid the price for it. When I was reading your history, I cried. God Bless YOU for breaking that cycle, and the fact that your kids say that you are a good example of a mommy is what I think you will hear God Himself say to you one day. Job well done, my daughter.

Angel, Thank you for sharing that. I am so sorry that you lived that nightmare. Child abuse is all too common and we, the ones with a heart for this issue, must stick together to get the awareness out there, and also to get petitions, legislature to fund Child Protective Agencies much better. That is usually the common problem in most child abuse deaths, there was something in the system that went over-looked. The child paid the price for it. When I was reading your history, I cried. God Bless YOU for breaking that cycle, and the fact that your kids say that you are a good example of a mommy is what I think you will hear God Himself say to you one day. Job well done, my daughter.

It is possible to break the cycle, and I agree – that if it happened to you, and you do it to someone else, then yes DOUBLE the punishment.

I was molested as a child by a neighbour. What kind of freak rubs his naked penis against an innocent 8 year old girl, in the guise of “swimming lessons”? I would NEVER leave my children with any man, ANY, and I include relatives here, who is not their father. I have extensively interviewed my daycare providers. I have one babysitter, who would kill for my children if she needed to. And I, I had therapy, because it terrified me to wash my children “down there”.

Anyone, anyone who touches a child in a sexual way – NO MERCY. I would like to see Arabian style punishment – cut off their hands. Preferably with a DULL knife.

It is possible to break the cycle, and I agree – that if it happened to you, and you do it to someone else, then yes DOUBLE the punishment.

I was molested as a child by a neighbour. What kind of freak rubs his naked penis against an innocent 8 year old girl, in the guise of “swimming lessons”? I would NEVER leave my children with any man, ANY, and I include relatives here, who is not their father. I have extensively interviewed my daycare providers. I have one babysitter, who would kill for my children if she needed to. And I, I had therapy, because it terrified me to wash my children “down there”.

Anyone, anyone who touches a child in a sexual way – NO MERCY. I would like to see Arabian style punishment – cut off their hands. Preferably with a DULL knife.

KT, thank you for the kind words. I know God is the only reason I survived, and He is the one who stays my hand, and shuts my mouth when I might not otherwise be able to. My constant prayer since I had my first child over 20 years ago has been, “Lord, please protect my kids from all abuse – and keep me from becoming what I was raised in.” He has been faithful to do that for me. I have a horrible temper – I yell and scream. I have been known to throw things. But, NEVER have I turned that anger on my kids. I have GOTTEN angry with them, but when I do, I wait until I can be reasonable before talking to – or disciplining – them. I spank my kids when they need it, but I have never left a mark – and most of the time they don’t even bother to cry. LOL. I tell them every day how much they mean to me, how much I love them, and how wonderful they are. My children all know that they are my world…and my reason for living. I want to give them what I wish I had had as a child. And with God’s grace, I am doing the best that I can.

And Mare, I agree with your method of child care. I have only a few people I would trust to leave my kids with. If I have plans, and my sitter cancels, I would rather scrap my plans than leave them with someone I am not comfortable with. I have canceled anniversary dates and other plans with my hubby in the past because my sitter canceled at the last minute, and I couldn’t get hold of one of my other trusted people. I’d rather have my kids safe and miss my ‘plans’, than leave them with someone I don’t know, or don’t know well enough. I also like your Arabian style punishment theory. But I will go you one better. I think they should chop off the schlong as well. With a rusty spoon.

KT, thank you for the kind words. I know God is the only reason I survived, and He is the one who stays my hand, and shuts my mouth when I might not otherwise be able to. My constant prayer since I had my first child over 20 years ago has been, “Lord, please protect my kids from all abuse – and keep me from becoming what I was raised in.” He has been faithful to do that for me. I have a horrible temper – I yell and scream. I have been known to throw things. But, NEVER have I turned that anger on my kids. I have GOTTEN angry with them, but when I do, I wait until I can be reasonable before talking to – or disciplining – them. I spank my kids when they need it, but I have never left a mark – and most of the time they don’t even bother to cry. LOL. I tell them every day how much they mean to me, how much I love them, and how wonderful they are. My children all know that they are my world…and my reason for living. I want to give them what I wish I had had as a child. And with God’s grace, I am doing the best that I can.

And Mare, I agree with your method of child care. I have only a few people I would trust to leave my kids with. If I have plans, and my sitter cancels, I would rather scrap my plans than leave them with someone I am not comfortable with. I have canceled anniversary dates and other plans with my hubby in the past because my sitter canceled at the last minute, and I couldn’t get hold of one of my other trusted people. I’d rather have my kids safe and miss my ‘plans’, than leave them with someone I don’t know, or don’t know well enough. I also like your Arabian style punishment theory. But I will go you one better. I think they should chop off the schlong as well. With a rusty spoon.

Kathy Thomas:”Child abuse is all too common and we, the ones with a heart for this issue, must stick together to get the awareness out there, and also to get petitions, legislature to fund Child Protective Agencies much better. That is usually the common problem in most child abuse deaths, there was something in the system that went over-looked. The child paid the price for it.”

you said it all!!!!! i couldn’t agree more….the only thing i would add is….please!!! stop taking away the funding that child services so desparately needs!!!! the agencies CANNOT function without a decent budget….”no child left behind”???? start with the ones who need help the most. if we don’t, we’ll never, ever be able to break the cycle.

Kathy Thomas:”Child abuse is all too common and we, the ones with a heart for this issue, must stick together to get the awareness out there, and also to get petitions, legislature to fund Child Protective Agencies much better. That is usually the common problem in most child abuse deaths, there was something in the system that went over-looked. The child paid the price for it.”

you said it all!!!!! i couldn’t agree more….the only thing i would add is….please!!! stop taking away the funding that child services so desparately needs!!!! the agencies CANNOT function without a decent budget….”no child left behind”???? start with the ones who need help the most. if we don’t, we’ll never, ever be able to break the cycle.

Thank Karen, as usual, you say just the right thing. I saw on a Christian news programs yesterday that Obama’s new healthcare plan is going to cost $637 TRILLION, yeah you read it right, to fund. (not Obama-bashing, just stating the facts) Common sense would tell me when I read these and other stories about severely abused children, that some of that money should go to and by all means the children are fully entitled to a portion of it. I was blessed not to be abused as a child, but to even think about
the children having to experience the daily fear, pain, hopelessness, etc., that they go thru is just unconscionable. The “not my kid, not my problem” attitude seems to prevail, that why I so appreciate this site, and the people and their concerns, even though it sometimes gets derailed a bit. But we move on, because there is such a greater good to accomplish. I am not being self-righteous, just realistic, can’t get too involved or get off-track. Then we lose sight of the whole purpose of our involvement.
God Bless you and those new babies, I think you are the one with the new babies right? Sometimes it’s hard to follow who’s who on these threads. May God Bless Our Endeavors.

Thank Karen, as usual, you say just the right thing. I saw on a Christian news programs yesterday that Obama’s new healthcare plan is going to cost $637 TRILLION, yeah you read it right, to fund. (not Obama-bashing, just stating the facts) Common sense would tell me when I read these and other stories about severely abused children, that some of that money should go to and by all means the children are fully entitled to a portion of it. I was blessed not to be abused as a child, but to even think about
the children having to experience the daily fear, pain, hopelessness, etc., that they go thru is just unconscionable. The “not my kid, not my problem” attitude seems to prevail, that why I so appreciate this site, and the people and their concerns, even though it sometimes gets derailed a bit. But we move on, because there is such a greater good to accomplish. I am not being self-righteous, just realistic, can’t get too involved or get off-track. Then we lose sight of the whole purpose of our involvement.
God Bless you and those new babies, I think you are the one with the new babies right? Sometimes it’s hard to follow who’s who on these threads. May God Bless Our Endeavors.

Angel, by saying how you deal with your admitted temper, you are saying you follow the tenaments of Anger Management to a T. No thanks necessary. I just am sorry that you went thru all of that. I places a mark on a person forever, and how that person handles it, makes all the difference in the world. You have chosen to break the cycle, and so that legacy has been imparted to your children and they will then continue the healthy cycle. My hats off to You! You are one brave, perceptive, and determined lady!
Mare, I too feel for you! This all too common, obviously, which is why the abused and non-abused alike are involved in this site and others like it. The abused are speaking from the voice of experience, the non-abused have had a “burden” placed on their hearts by God, I believe.
I’ve heard it said that when a person dies, the Angels come to take them home, but when a child dies, Jesus Himself comes to take them home. I truly believe that. (I may have said that before on one of these threads) Anyway, you are survivors, and are clearly cut-out for this cause! Let us continue!

Angel, by saying how you deal with your admitted temper, you are saying you follow the tenaments of Anger Management to a T. No thanks necessary. I just am sorry that you went thru all of that. I places a mark on a person forever, and how that person handles it, makes all the difference in the world. You have chosen to break the cycle, and so that legacy has been imparted to your children and they will then continue the healthy cycle. My hats off to You! You are one brave, perceptive, and determined lady!
Mare, I too feel for you! This all too common, obviously, which is why the abused and non-abused alike are involved in this site and others like it. The abused are speaking from the voice of experience, the non-abused have had a “burden” placed on their hearts by God, I believe.
I’ve heard it said that when a person dies, the Angels come to take them home, but when a child dies, Jesus Himself comes to take them home. I truly believe that. (I may have said that before on one of these threads) Anyway, you are survivors, and are clearly cut-out for this cause! Let us continue!