“I didn’t know he was injured”
I’d like to thank Jenny for another story out of Oklahoma….
The peanut-headed loser you see above is Rico Antwoine Berry, 24. He has been arrested in the death of his girlfriend’s 2-year old son, Jolen Babakhani. He doesn’t seem to look very upset about it either, but then, he probably isn’t. He’s probably more upset that he is being held without bond.
Police who were in the area on an unrelated vandalism call were approached by Sara Babakhani, the boy’s mother. She had returned home from class, and her live-in BF had told her that Jolen was having trouble breathing. They were on the way to the hospital when they stopped to ask for assistance from the police. The officers performed CPR, and called for an ambulance, but it was too late for little Jolen. He was put on life support, but later died.
Jolen had bruising on his chin, neck, and forehead, as well as fingernail marks on the sides of his neck. Berry, as usual in cases like this, gave several different stories to police. When are these people gonna learn that the more you contradict yourself, the more likely it is that you will not be believed? If you’re gonna lie, pick a good one, and stick with it. They’ll still find out you’re lying, but at least you’ll save us taxpayers some money because they’ll only have one story to disprove, instead of several. The abusive freak eventually admitted that he had “laid hands on”, the boy. Really? Is that what they’re calling it now? I thought ‘laying hands on’ was something they did in pentecostal churches, and that it was usually done to HEAL people, instead of killing them.
Berry also said he was unaware that Jolen was injured. Let’s see….there were bruises on his chin and neck, and he was having difficulty breathing. What in heaven’s name did he THINK was going on?
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October 19th, 2009 at 10:47 am
Another wasted life. Another loser who doesn’t get the fact that children cry. Two year olds crap their pants. They expect to be fed when they feel hungry. They want to be cuddled even if you’d rather watch football. They’re 2. They don’t realize that they aren’t the center of the universe. They get frustrated. They can be extremely annoying. BUT, you DON’T kill them!!! You don’t choke them, you don’t shake them, you don’t duct tape them to toilets, you don’t let them play outside in the bitter cold in diapers, you FREAKIN WAKE UP AND BE RESPONSIBLE. FEED the kid, change his diaper.. it’s only poop. Wipe his nose… a little snot never hurt anyone.
Women… STOP leaving your children with boyfriends. Most of them are with you for the free rent and free extra-curricular activities. They don’t care about your children.
October 19th, 2009 at 12:51 pm
Hmmmm. What do you think that baby did to deserve such a beating? Did he borrow the car without asking? Was he dialing 900 numbers and talking dirty to some unseen fat housewife? Did he forget to take out the garbage? I’m trying to wrap my head around thins one. Help me… Anyone….. My guess – Potty training. These macho fuckers usually beat them because the have an accisent in their pants. Maybe someone can return the favor during his stay in the Gray Bar Motel.
October 19th, 2009 at 1:02 pm
It probably was potty training, or maybe the little boy didn’t say “yes, sir” every other phrase or something. These assholes always seem to have unreasonable expectations of what a child is capable of at certain stages of development, and so punish them for ‘disrespect’, when they are just being babies.
October 20th, 2009 at 11:55 am
I personally know the mother, how dare you people assume that shes a bad mother because she left her child with her boyfriend!! he never abused her child before so she had no reason to think her son was in any danger! you people need to know the entire story before you go shooting off at the mouth with your ridiculous comments
October 20th, 2009 at 12:33 pm
Oh, God. Another asshole defending some worthless twat. Ok, here we go. Nobody said she was a bad mother. It was stated that she made a stupid, and deadly, decision to leave her child with a person who has no obligation to her child. Whatever her reason was, she made a bad decision, and now her child’s dead. She has to live with the fact that her child is dead because she made a stupid decision. I’m not calling her a bad mother, but if more info comes out that she knew about previous abuse, that’s a different story.
October 20th, 2009 at 12:25 pm
TJ – are you reading the same article I am? Where in that article (or in any of the previous comments) do you see anyone saying Sara was a bad mother? You don’t. Everyone has been putting the blame exactly where it belongs – on the sorry excuse for a BF. Seems like the only one making ridiculous comments here ….is you.
Remedial reading comprehension, anyone?
October 20th, 2009 at 12:41 pm
Hmmmm – Defending the mother when no defense is needed…. That almost makes me think she was a bad mother. THat’s like my son telling me “There’s nothing in my pockets” on our way to scholl when I never even asked. Makes ya wonder….
October 20th, 2009 at 12:49 pm
Yes, indeed. That kind of thing does tend to make you investigate more thoroughly.
As to the reading comprehension, so many people get through school nowadays and can’t even read at an elementary school level, so the lack of reading comprehension has ceased to amaze me. Sadden, yes, amaze, not any longer.
October 20th, 2009 at 10:06 pm
I can’t believe “SOME” of you people on here. I have known the mother pretty much most of my life she is a hard working mother that was trying to make a life for her self and Jolen, by going to college. It’s not like she planed on leaving her child with someone that would harm him. He was her WHOLE WORLD! I don’t know if you people watch the “New” but 90% of the time the person that harms the child is the Biological parent which he was not. If you have never seen signs of any sort of abuse why not leave your child with someone you think you can trust? And as far as I’m concerned, Rico Antwoine Berry can burn in “HELL” of what he has done to Jolen’s family.
October 20th, 2009 at 10:25 pm
Could you be a little more specific please, Yolanda? Because I’m still not too sure who or what you are talking about. Nobody is blaming the mother – nobody has said anything bad about her. She made a mistake….we get that. We are just saying that the boyfriend is usually not the best choice for a sitter. The rule applies to babysitting, the same as it applies to other areas of life…..if you are getting your babysitting done for free, then you’re probably gonna get exactly what you pay for…..
October 21st, 2009 at 1:32 pm
Well Angel, its people like you that don’t know the family and don’t know the situation its not like he stayed with Rico everyday, he normally went to daycare… You know things do happen, and you may not be able to take your children to daycare. And what you said about you get what you pay for is “NOT” always true!! And as far as bad mouthing goes, do you not consider calling a woman a “worthless twat” bad mouthing? I do!! So as far as I’m concerned if “you” or “anyone else” who doesn’t know the full story or the family, you don’t need comment on things you don’t know about! She is one of the best mothers I know! She such a giving person, she has given Jolen’s heart to an 8mth old baby.
October 21st, 2009 at 1:42 pm
Here’s an idea for you……if you don’t like the things being said around here, feel free to click the little red X at the top corner of the screen and find another site to haunt. You are beginning to bore me. Get your arse off of your shoulders and try to understand what is really being said – or leave. Your ‘righteous indignation’ is anything but…..get over yourself.
October 21st, 2009 at 1:45 pm
Yep, called her a worthless twat, and I stand by what I said. So, the fuck, what?
Good for her for donating his heart, but what about the rest of his organs? Or were they too damaged from what his mommy’s fuck buddy (who you NEVER leave a baby with) did to him? I’m not negating the good that came from her donating her baby’s heart so another could live, I’m just saying that if it wasn’t for her stupid decision, she wouldn’t have had to do that.
October 21st, 2009 at 1:43 pm
Yolanda, You are calling out Angel and as far as I can tell she never said anything about the mother that should be taken offense to. Please go back and re-read the story and comments. Oh,and before you jump my shit, I never said anything about the mother. I’m sure she is dying inside. I’m sure she would give anything to undo what has been done. I feel for her (and her family). I really do. You need to know that we get emmotional over these stories, even if we don’t know the people involved. Sometimes we comment based on emmotion and after more thought don’t mean what we originally posted. Just make sure you are calling out the correct person. That’s all. Oh, and I’m sorry for your loss. I hope you are at peace knowing that this fucker will get what he has coming to him.
October 21st, 2009 at 1:52 pm
Now see, I rarely disagree with you, but I sooo do. I do blame the mothers that put their children in these predicaments. I think they deserve every minute of pain, and suffering, and loss that they feel. As I’ve said many, many times before, I’ve been with my boyfriend for five years, and while I trust him with my life, and he does have a relationship with my children, I have NEVER left him with my children. And they’re older, 14(almost 15), 13(almost 14) and 8(almost 9). He has NEVER spent the night at my house when my children are there. I am not willing to take a chance with my children, plain and simple.
October 21st, 2009 at 2:02 pm
See – I normally blame the mother as well. I guess because we see so mant stories here where the mother stands by the fucker that killed the child or even goes so far as to cover up for the shit head is what is making me not blame this mother. It’s easy to be mad and hold her responsible – I think she is already paying enough. My guess is that she will never make this mistake again.
October 21st, 2009 at 2:59 pm
First of all, it’s MANY not MANT.
Sorry, couldn’t resist. I hope you’re right about her never doing it again, but I just don’t seem to have very much faith in humanity these days.
October 21st, 2009 at 1:50 pm
Wow – jj and Angel are fired up today. I’ll just stay out of your way.
October 21st, 2009 at 1:54 pm
I’m sick and I’m stuck at work. I’m being the most horrendous bitch here, so I’m not tempted to lose my temper with the children. They don’t deserve that.
October 30th, 2009 at 11:31 pm
He’s being charged with first degree murder.
http://www.kfsm.com/news/sns-ap-ok–childkilled-charges,0,2876878.story
November 16th, 2009 at 1:54 am
hi this is sara, jolen’s mother. i want to thank yolanda for standing up for me. i am not a terrible mother. the title of this whole page is ‘parents behaving badly’. so yes yolanda commenting about me is what it is about. to you angel, april and jj, please leave this whole situation alone. you have no reason to be commenting how you feel on here. you all obviously have no life and just feel like talking like you know how everyones supposed to live theirs. so maybe you all should get off your computers and go outside and enjoy life instead of trying to correct everyone elses. questioning my parenting will get you nowhere because there are many people still asking for my advice on how to stay strong through this all and life. so you three please have a blessed day and those perfect lifes you all claim to have
November 16th, 2009 at 9:48 am
I just love the way that people who carry around huge amounts of guilt, like yourself, always say that we have no lives, we don’t understand the situation, we don’t know the whole story, blah, blah, blah. YOUR CHILD DIED BECAUSE YOUR FUCK FRIEND WAS MORE IMPORTANT THAN HE WAS!!!!! I’m sure he NEVER “laid hands on” your son before this (that’s scarcasm, since an idoit such as yourself wouldn’t recognize it) and you had no reason not to trust him. Here’s a reason, you worthless bitch, HE’S NOT THE BOY’S FATHER AND HAS NO REASON TO BE LEFT ALONE WITH YOUR CHILD!!! My fiance and I have been together for over 5 years and I have never left him alone with my children, and they’re old enough to tell me if something happens. I guess that does mean that I’m perfect compared to you.
But let’s move on to the rest of the garbage you wrote, shall we. I have a wonderful fullfilling life with a man I love and three children who I didn’t let my boyfriend murder. I’m actively involved in my children’s activitites and my church. You wish that you could have the happiness and joy that not only I have, but the other regular posters as well. Your just a selfish woman who had the most important thing in her life taken away, well, what should have been the most important thing in your life, because you were thinking with your pussy instead of with your brain. You get to live with that for the rest of your life. I hope it haunts you every day, until the day that you die, that your son died because of you.
Just one more thing, people are asking you for advice on staying strong? I guess it’s kind of easy for a whore with no conscience because I know if I was the reason for anything, no matter how minor, happening to my children, I would be a mess. Knowing it was my fault, I couldn’t go on.
December 8th, 2009 at 4:48 pm
JJ I’m going to pray for you…
December 8th, 2009 at 5:03 pm
Excuse me?
December 25th, 2009 at 9:35 pm
Your activity in any church worries me. Your bitterness does not go unseen. It is sad that you have the capability of attempting to degrade anyone in such a mannor. I am honestly appauled at your comments. That was inhumane. I have prayed for you and will continue to. God bless and Merry Christmas!
November 16th, 2009 at 10:26 am
Sara,
I have EVERY reason to comment about my feelings on here. That’s what this blog is for! If you don’t like the rules here, I’m sure there are many other internet ‘playgrounds’ for you to explore. I feel sorry for you. I could not imagine having to deal with the loss of one of my children…..especially if that death were caused by someone I knew, in my own home. I would be too devastated to even get out of bed in the morning, much less be surfing the web, and googling my child’s name (or mine). You truly MUST possess amazing strength.
Your strength aside, though – YOU are the one who is mistaken about the purpose of this blog. The vast majority of regular posters on this blog come here to vent their frustrations at the injustices suffered by the abused children.
I, personally, never called you a bad mother…I simply said that you made an unfortunate choice in your selection of a babysitter. And you did. The fact that you are not defending the monster who did this to your child leads me to believe that you DID love your child. I’m afraid, however, that many of the comments you will find on this blog will not be so kind. Perhaps you should spend your time elsewhere – maybe starting a webpage to commemorate your son’s brief life, instead of coming here to tell us how we should or should not feel about child abuse in general, and your son’s death specifically. You will not change anyone’s mind here, and at best, you will only serve to continue the support for your son, at the expense of yourself.
November 16th, 2009 at 8:06 am
Sara, our world is more intense than you could imagine. I personally work on the computer and visit this and other similar sites when I have a free moment, so yeah, I’m living a life. In South Africa, even. Imagine that. I happen to be tremendously interested in true crime, and would have been a forensic scientist if I had not decided on environmental geology.
I’m incredibly sad about your situation. I’ve known and trusted many people who I allowed to babysit my children, and my children were never harmed, so I understand how you must feel. If you stood up for the scum that killed your son, I might feel different, but I haven’t noticed you doing that.
We get involved at sites such as these to vent our own emotions, because we are disgusted at the abuse and molestation of innocents. So yes, we will speak and say what we wish, because we have the right of freedom of speech. If it offends you, ignore it. Go somewhere else. And most of us here have not down cut you. We are horrified by what that thing that calls himself a man did to your baby. We are actually on your side.
November 16th, 2009 at 10:40 pm
i understand that everyone has their own opinion and reasons for writing on here about what they think. i should have never wrote on here to the comments left on here by people because it will never end with you telling me what you think and how i could have done things different. i just dont understand why people want to judge others when the only one that is to do that is God. thank you for venting and feeling angry or whatever it is you all are feeling about this that had happened to my son. i just hate that it has to be like this. i dont want my son to be remember as the two year old little boy that was murdered by his mothers boyfriend. and that is how he is perceived to the entire world now besides to the people that personally knew my son and myself. its crazy how many people this has touched or affected in some kind of way that we knew. i just wish it would do the same to you all instead of in a negative way. you say i didnt appreciate my son and that i am a bitch and worry about fucking or whatever it is you may think, but it has always been my son and me and always will be. the guy that you see in the picture is a monster to me. he has his own five year old daughter. i wish he would have thought about her when he did this to my son. but people are selfish in this world and i have learned that. i wish i could say more about how i feel but i see it is a waste of my efforts to do that. i hope you all enjoy the lifes you say you all have. and yes appreciate your kids that you have and enjoy every moment with them just as i did with the two and a half years i had with my son and i will continue to live for him and love him always and forever. thank you
November 16th, 2009 at 10:43 pm
oh and one more thing. if you do look up my sons name there is a place where it is in the memory of my son. there is much more i have to put on there but i am still waiting on getting every picture of my son from everyone. so if you would like to see my son in a positive light instead of this way you should do that
November 17th, 2009 at 1:38 am
I do see your son in a positive light, and I’m glad he had a chance to experience this earth, even if it was for a short time. I see the man who killed him as the monster who is wasting our oxygen, who has destroyed at least two families, who never deserves to set foot outside the walls and bars again.
I’m glad your son had a mother who appreciated him. Carry his memory well, and in the future, help to fight against such horrible creatures as this murderer. He is one of many, and that’s why we’re here: to make others aware of what’s happening in the world to our sweet innocent babies, and to vent our anger and frustration.
December 14th, 2009 at 1:08 pm
If only his mom would of ended the relationship when she found out he was married maybe she would still have her son to hold at night… And his daughter would still have her dad! Hopefully RICO burns in hell and never gets a chance to see his daughter again!