Good Samaritan:4, Bad Mother:0
Amber Lee Gandy, 25, of Grand Ronde, Oregon, likes to drink and then go joyriding with her babies in the car. Allegedly. Charges are expected to be filed concerning the accident in which she flipped her SUV upside down in Widow Creek with her children, 2-year old Kylie Gandy, 3-year old Austin Gandy, and six-month old Kameron Gandy in the vehicle.
Luckily, a neighbor happened upon the wreck and was able to extract Kylie and Austin, and the mother. It took a few more minutes before the incubator remembered that she had a third child, who was still in the vehicle, underwater. The hero waded back in to the creek, but by the time he got the baby out, Kameron had no pulse and was not breathing.
Medical personnel managed to revive the infant and he was life-flighted to another hospital in critical condition, and his prognosis has improved since then. No thanks to the idiot who thought that getting her drink on was more important than keeping her kids alive.
Where do these selfish hootchies come from? And why do they have babies that they have no intention of taking proper care of? How hard is it to stay sober, anyway? I do it all the time, so it can’t be that hard. Just say no. Just another public service announcement from your neighborhood crime prevention specialist, Captain Obvious.
I have yet to find an article that gives Amber’s BAC, but the wording in one of the articles makes me wonder if alcohol was the only thing she was under the influence of. According to the second article linked above, “an investigation by the Sheriff’s Office and Oregon State Police revealed that Amber Gandy was under the influence of intoxicants and that alcohol was a contributing factor of the traffic crash.” If alcohol was listed as a ‘factor’, and she was under the influence of ‘intoxicants’ (plural), that leads me to believe that there were other substances that she tested positive for, as well.
Oh, and did I mention that she was driving on a suspended license? Yeah. It has been suspended since 2007. I bet it wasn’t suspended for anything as minor as unpaid traffic tickets, either. Something tells me that this ain’t her first rodeo, if ya know what I mean…..
And just so I don’t get slammed by the ‘double standard’ police….where in the HELL was the father? Surely he knew her license were suspended, and that she had a drinking problem. So why were the kiddies in the car with her? So many questions….anybody have any answers?
I sincerely hope they throw the book at this lush, and keep her away from her kids for a good long time. Like, until they are old enough to drive themselves around.
I’d like to thank Calvena for this tip.
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December 15th, 2009 at 6:05 pm
Keven, my husband and I wish you and Kameron (that’s spelled right, I hope) the best of luck. I’m so sorry this happened.
December 15th, 2009 at 6:36 pm
Keven, Our God is good and our circumstances are so small compared to God’s circumstances. He loves the little children most of all, He Will make a way for Kameron. I have a personal story that a nephew of mine went thru with more threat to his health than Kameron’s, guess what? He’s being his usual little bugger self now! only 3 months later!!! Believe!
December 15th, 2009 at 6:44 pm
i think it was ANGEL that did the investigative work.
December 15th, 2009 at 6:48 pm
Yes, Angel did the investigative work, April did he peace-making work. Thanks for the partially correct comment.
December 15th, 2009 at 7:18 pm
I didn’t need to do any peace-making work, because (according to jj, anyway) I’m always too nice anyway. I don’t think I was ever even rude…just a little sarcastic (and what’s a little sarcasm among friends, right?)
Thanks, y’all. I’m really blessed to have such good friends.
Just call me Dick Tracy….ummmmm, Sherlock Holmes…….ummmmmm, Agatha Christie. Nah, just keep calling me Angel – I don’t need any extra personalities.
Kev – how’s little Kameron doing? Is he out of surgery, yet?
December 15th, 2009 at 6:56 pm
as i was saying keven, angel is quite the little investigator and i believe other than a select one or two, we never doubted you to sstart with (other than your secret friends with many names). prayers are with you.
December 15th, 2009 at 7:03 pm
HEY!! Angel and I both fucking rock. Let’s face it.
Where is CFM?? We haven’t heard from him / her for a while. Keven…. Anyone there?? How is little K??
December 15th, 2009 at 8:08 pm
Angel, I’ll try again, my post above said that “yes Angel did the investigative work, and April did the peacemaking
December 15th, 2009 at 8:11 pm
oops!!! I did not say that Angel did the peacemaking, I know Angel, I often get yours and April’s name mixed up, but not this time.
And Karen, you are forgetting all of your posts about Keven from the 11th to the 12th.
Are taking April up on her offer to spank me with that Olive Branch? In a roundabout way?
December 15th, 2009 at 8:26 pm
Back to topic, Keven you must be so impressed with all of us, sorry for the interruptions, How is Kameron? I feel strongly he will be better by tonite, and even better tomorrow and in the days to come!
December 15th, 2009 at 8:53 pm
ok heres the scoop he didn’t get into surgery when he was supposed to but was in and out in 40 minutes. WOW. surgeons said piece of cake he is a bit grumpy but resting now so thats outstanding. we are looking at going home within the next 2 days depending upon him tolerating his feedings thanks to all for your prayers and concern. will keep you posted
December 15th, 2009 at 9:00 pm
Keven, See? Between today’s technology and God’s guiding hands, Kameron will be back to normal in no time!!! Thanks for the update. Any turns, let us know.
December 15th, 2009 at 10:40 pm
hi keven. glad to hear things went well today. i hope he adjusts well to the feeding and tube and you’re able to go home soon. get some rest and keep the updates coming. how are your other children doing?
December 16th, 2009 at 12:07 am
kids are doing very well thank you. they had a christmas play at school today and had a very good time. it sucks i was unable to attend it. however grandma and mom were able. so i guess i’ll have to wait till next time. these kidos are going to have an amazing christmas thats all i have to say. (spoiled rotten) they sooooo deserve it they are amazing little critters. and best of all i get what i want for x-mas my little man home and safe.
December 15th, 2009 at 11:16 pm
I don’t even know where to begin….I’m not a bad person and I wish that I wouldn’t have got wrapped up in the back and forth crap. I told myself I wouldn’t….wish I would have listened.
All of the information I stated was true to my knowledge. I had no reason to doubt my family when they told this information to me. Keven has taken every one of my punches better than most would especially under these circumstances.
I do care about Kameron as well as his sisters and his brother. I think about them every day, several times a day and wish them only the best.
I agree that Amber needs help and I pray that she gets it and embraces it for her sake and her family’s.
Keven I pray that you have changed as you have stated. Please know that the information I received came from someone very close to you and Amber and it makes me sick to think that things were lied about especially concerning Kameron’s condition.
December 16th, 2009 at 12:01 am
well i said i was done responding to comments from CFM but there was a slightly different tone here. never once did i ever state that i was not without fault. i am as far from perfect as they come. but what i can promise you is this is not the same guy i was 10 years 5 years 3 years even 30 days ago. and that I will do whatever it takes to keep my family together to keep my children safe and to help them grow spiritually. Amber will be getting help we are well in the works of that I am prepared to help her with anything that may come up she has got a long road ahead of her and she needs me. you also state that i have taken you punches well under these circumstances. perhaps you don’t know me very well after all. when it comes to my family i am a rock. I was put here to care for them I will protect them and comfort them as needed. I will say there was a time that i was shakey to say the least but since have grown in more ways than one. Here is another well known FACT there are certain family members which don’t care for me. another FACT is i don’t give two shakes about them either. such is life and it is good. as strange as it may sound. everything is as it should be. there is a reason for everything God has reasons it may just take some time to figure them out. I do not hold any grudges with anyone on this blog for the simple fact i’ve made bigger mistakes than being misinformed.
December 15th, 2009 at 11:30 pm
I can certainly speak for myself, and if I were you, I’d feel at the least, more indignation that you display. I am sure neither you, nor Keven nor any of us are perfect. We are all flawed. He that can (honestly) cast the first stone hasn’t really been honest, till now. I know I cannot cast that first stone. I was wrong to doubt the concerns you, Keven and any other family member who is being truthful. I would not be as gracious as you at this point.
I just know that I have determined via some facts, that Keven is who he says he is, and that his story is what it is, flawed, just like the rest of us. But Keven is trying to hold the pieces of this fragmented story together, the best he can. You know, being reserved, and waiting for some geniune actions is perfectly understandable. You have been throught the mill, outside and inside of this thread. Together, every person who posted on this blog owns a piece of the pie, and if anyone thinks otherwise, then, real character wouldn’t have a chance. I say to you, before my God, (drama there, yes) but that I do mean every word I have said from this morning on and as I said earlier today to Keven, to even consider forgiveness of us would elevate him to a level of esteem I myself do not have.
December 16th, 2009 at 12:09 am
Keven – Thank God little K is doing well. I hope and pray that he continues to improve.
Concerned – I am in awe of your last post. Wow… just…. Wow. What a big person you are to admit to your part in the negative posts here and to offer such kind words to Keven. We should all learn from you. What a class act. My hat’s off to you.
This is one of my favorite threads. Here I was expecting all sort of ass-hattery and there are some pretty awesome people posting here. Much love to all of you.
December 16th, 2009 at 12:14 am
And then Keven comes back with another awesome comment. That is awesome that the two of you have some to this place. What an improvement from a few days ago. Kudos. I believe that this is best for little Kameron. The last thing he needs is a family that does nothing but fight.
December 16th, 2009 at 12:16 am
Keven and Concerned, You can only go UP from here, right? Am I correct in seeing that this problem is between the two of you? Everyone has their degree of problems, yet I remember once, after I’d really done some wrong stuf, my Dad said to me “well, the thing is, is that you saw what didn’t work, you evaluated it, and then you took the necessary steps to correct it.” What wise words. Can you each embrace at least that much? Too much to live for, not enough to stop living for.
Much of my love and prayers for reconciliations, they will take time, but all things that have value take time.
December 16th, 2009 at 12:17 am
ok….that’s it….i’m busting out the popcorn and koolaid….
December 16th, 2009 at 12:20 am
Yes, Keven, you would not be the person you are today except for your past mistakes, in which you have been extremely honest. Each experience in life is a stepping stone to the better experience. Keep going.
December 16th, 2009 at 12:22 am
Karen, Enjoy!!!
December 16th, 2009 at 12:32 am
“special” koolaid???
December 16th, 2009 at 12:38 am
very special….it’s green and turns your tongue green….goodnight all!!!
December 16th, 2009 at 12:40 am
Hey, Special Koolaid? I didn’t know about that… I have heard of “Special Brownies”, but not “Special Koolaid”…sounds interesting!
December 16th, 2009 at 8:25 pm
Keven, I did not forget you or Kameron. What’s the status? How’s he feeling? How are YOU?
hang in there, Kathy
December 16th, 2009 at 9:40 pm
Kameron is doing much better today. me too
we should be going home on friday. they are just trying to get all the follow ups scheduled. so thats all we are waiting on. oh and you bet i asked if we had to be here for that. and they said we don’t but we do got to love it. bad news if you take it that was is the neck brace has to stay on for another week and a half before they will take new films damn neuro surgeons anyway just who do they think they are rocket scientist’s. oh well better safe than sorry we’ve come to far to take any chances. i’m just happy to see him playing with things and eating his hands again lol. thank God for miracles. just waiting for all the docs to finish up their work and we are gone. yeehaa.
December 16th, 2009 at 11:03 pm
Keven, Thanks for the update, they do like to chew, slobber on their hands don’t they? Thanks for the update, sounds alot better, I’d predicted this earlier in a post if you remember, not because I know anything at all about medicine, I just experienced my nephew in a coma for over a week and half, was supposed to be blind, brain damaged, and that was about 3 months ago, now he is perfectly normal. Amazing how they bounce back! Whatever doesn’t kill you makes you stronger, eh? God is Blessing you, take care of you and yours, Kathy
December 17th, 2009 at 1:20 pm
Keven / CFM – any word on K??? will he be going home tomorrow? Amber??? What’s up with her? Is she still in jail. Is she home? Keep us posted!
*hugs to all*
December 17th, 2009 at 4:38 pm
Amber has yet to be charged with anything. has not been to jail. anyhow Kameron will be going home tomarrow finally a whole month here he has quite a road ahead of him but i know we will get through it. i got the new carseat, new tires, oil, lots of new toys, planner to keep track of doctor appointments, did i say lots of new toys? he gets some early
. but we are going home home home. i’m very excited aboout getting into his own environment with his screaming, running and yelling brothers and sisters. i can feel the hairs on my head turning gray just thinking about it. lol. Good stuff. 
December 17th, 2009 at 4:43 pm
All Good Stuff!!!! thanks, saw you on the open thread….nice to see you there!
December 18th, 2009 at 1:21 am
Here is an update Amber was arrested earlier and she is facing several charges such as 3 cts. reck.endangering 3 cts. assault 3 1 ct. dui. 1 ct. dws. and 1 ct. of assault 2 measure 11. in oregon the assault 2 carries a min. sentence of 5 years 10 months. that alone would make our kids 14,12,9,8 and 6 when she should be released. I just thought you all would want to hear.
December 18th, 2009 at 3:41 pm
that’s alot of charges. does she have a good lawyer? maybe if she’s taking positive strides towards rehabilitation, it will make a bit of a difference with the court. were you able to bring the baby home today?
December 18th, 2009 at 9:46 pm
Wow, Keven. I am sorry for you and sorry for the kids… I do think Amber should pay for her actions. As Karen said, hopefully if the judge sees she is making an attempt, he will have mercy on her and your family. *hugs*
December 18th, 2009 at 10:35 pm
we have had an evaluation and another appointment set up so we were trying. kinda hard to do now. but Kameron and I are home with everybody now and things are really good. it’s going to be a really good christmas.
December 18th, 2009 at 11:37 pm
what are the chances that bail can be posted before christmas?
December 19th, 2009 at 1:23 am
Keven, So sorry about the charges, but you know, had Kameron or any of the kids been killed in that accident, you’d be feeling ALOT worse right now. I agree with April, Amber has to pay for her actions, and I think I would be correct by saying this was probably not her first time doing drink and drugs with the kids in the car. So, it finally caught up with her, I am very sorry for you, and do not let it mess up your upward strides. Things will work out, they just won’t be exactly the same as before. Yeah, taking responsibility sucks, but we all have to do it.
December 22nd, 2009 at 12:07 am
keven…how are things going at home?
December 23rd, 2009 at 7:40 pm
things are good here went to court this morning for the kids they are to remain in my custody. amber is still in jail so kids are sad about that but it is my hope that at least for a moment on christmas day they are consumed with joy. kameron continues to get better went to pt yesterday they were amazed at how good he looked after all he had been through. so still a long road ahead but together we will get through it. I wish all of you a very merry christmas and a happy new year. my new years eve plans are to be a designated driver to all that need i’m going to be leaving my cell number at local bars if one should need a ride call me.
December 23rd, 2009 at 8:59 pm
Keven!! You are truly an inspiration. Making the best out of a shitty situation. Talk about holiday spirit!
Merry Christmas to you and your family!
December 24th, 2009 at 12:37 am
if there is a slight chance to help some family out there to not experience what we have i’m going to give it my best shot. my mom is going to watch my kids that evening. i’d like to ring in the new year with them but hey thats past their bed time.
December 24th, 2009 at 12:51 am
a merry Christmas and happy new year to you and your family keven, and to all the other readers out there.
December 31st, 2009 at 12:12 am
today Kameron got his neck brace off and i tell you what. he is like a whole new child laughing smiling ahhh man it’s great. heeeee’s back. 6 days till the swallow study and i suspect he will do great and the g-tube will be coming out very quickly. his neck is very weak, but i’ve found some exercises online to help with getting his strength back. i want the physical therapist to be amazed nexr time we visit her. today was a very very very very very very very very good day! did i happen to mention today was a good day?
December 31st, 2009 at 12:52 am
Keven, That’s awesome to hear! How are the rest of the kids? I trust they had an amzing Christmas (as did Dad, I’m sure). Thanks for continuing to update us!!
December 31st, 2009 at 9:54 am
everyone is doing just fine christmas was out of control. next year i am making a budget and sticking to it. LOL.
December 31st, 2009 at 12:16 pm
Keven, I say that every year!! My 8 year old scored an electric scooter and an Ipod in addition to all the damn toys he got. BAH!! Budget schmudget!!!
January 2nd, 2010 at 12:57 pm
well 3 more days till we go for his swallow study this will tell us if he even needs his tube for feedings. i suspect he will not just because of how he is doing in all other areas. it’s nice to have him laughing and smiling again. i sure hope he makes a full recovery if so he is going to play football no doubt he is tough enough
January 29th, 2010 at 2:09 am
While I appreciate your rage and anger, referring to these people in a way that dehumanizes them is not helpful. Women with children they do not take care of properly are not “hoochies” (no “t”) or cows, or pigs. They are sick, sad, people; BUT! still people. Call them fuck-ups or abusers or neglectful pieces of waste. But constantly indulging the madonna/whore complex does more harm than good.
Maybe if you understood PPD, or life as a povertized person would a lot of these cases be more understood. When a mom has got to turn tricks to get food for her baby, doing it with him in a closet SEEMS like a good idea. Is it really? No, certainly not, but dehumanizing ANY person degrades each and every one of us.
January 29th, 2010 at 9:57 am
You are an absolute moron. Who the fuck are you to tell us how we should feel and express those feelings? It is not our resposibilty to make these WORTHLESS PIECES OF SHIT feel better about themselves or justify their heinous crimes.
But I guess it’s ok for you to come here and insult every single poster by saying that we don’t understand mental health issues or poverty, since we’re obviously all independently wealthy, mentally healthy with no problems whatsoever in our sunny, happy lives, right?
What, are you another of Amber’s loser-ass friends coming here to explain how she just got a bad rap and everything’s a lie?
GTFOH
January 29th, 2010 at 7:29 pm
Beat me to it again. Fuck ‘em!
Hey Keven. I hope you are still reading. How are the little ones?
January 31st, 2010 at 2:12 pm
I can tell April and JJ, that this Heartless person is not a friend of Ambers, I however am a family member, and i can tell you that the children are doing very well, and Amber is still in jail, and looks like she will be in jail for awhile, unless Kevin can get bail for her until her court date. But the important fact is that the children are doing great, Kamron still has the feeding tube, but other then that he’s great.
February 1st, 2010 at 12:10 am
Thanks, Lorene. I think Keven mentioned that Amber was headed to jail for a bit. I have to say, I think it’s what she deserves. I hope that you and Keven continue to update us.