Teacher beats 1-year-old adopted son for not bonding
H.S. Teacher Charged With Beating 1-Year-Old Son:
You would think that teachers, much like lawyers, would know better than committing child abuse. 38-year-old Damien Gabriel Poling of Minneapolis allegedly didn’t know better.
The high school teacher is accused of beating his 1-year-old adopted son because he claims the boy didn’t ‘bond’ with him.
This one I take personally because I was adopted and my dad and myself never bonded. He was a jock and obviously I’m a geek. But you know what he never did? He never beat me so bad that I had two fractured ribs and fractures in my ankles that suggest I had been slammed down on my feet.
These days adopting a child is almost like winning the lottery after spending several thousands of dollars. Adoptive parents may even work harder to get children than biological parents. Therefore in my eyes it’s even worse when adoptive parents commit this type of abuse.
Luckily he was turned in by his own wife and this wasn’t a pair of breeders doing the damage.
Thanks to Jake’s Daddy for the tip.
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December 4th, 2009 at 8:25 am
Kudos to the mother in this case. But WTF is wrong with this guy?
December 4th, 2009 at 8:30 am
i’m getting a little tired of hearing of “the child wouldn’t bond with me” excuse. exactly WHAT are these parents expecting? do they have these visions of a child coming into their home (to TOTALLY COMPLETE STRANGERS) and instantly feeling all warm and fuzzy about it? imagine, being taken from your environment and everything and everyone you’ve ever known and placed with total strangers. new house, new people, new everything….and you’re just supposed to say “ahhhh….this is cool. i’ll now live happily ever after”. these jerkoffs don’t have a clue. it takes time anad nuturing and trust before a child is going to “bond” with you. i haven’t met a child yet that takes kindly to broken bones and brusing beatings….doubt that’s going to speed up the bonding period. it makes you wonder, especially with adoptive parents, what the he;; were they expecting or looking for? why in God’s name did he adopt this child in the first place? what a waste.
hats off to mom. at least she did the motherly thing and followed through with protecting her child. i hope this little one recovers emotionally.
and trench….i don’t think you’re a geek…i think you’re da man!!!!
December 4th, 2009 at 10:26 am
shit, some kids don’t even bond to their birth parents, and this little guy was only 1, it’s not like he chose not to bond to ‘Daddy’, that takes time. Guy sounds like a controlling asshat and little guy not bonding ruined his image of how things should be.
December 4th, 2009 at 10:30 am
What the heck are these adoptive parents so worked up about when they say a child didn’t ‘bond’ the child was only 1 year old. At that age they don’t show much emotion anyway other then crying when hurt or upset and if you was being slammed to the floor you would cry or even scream for that matter.I don’t see anything wrong with being carried under the parents arms like a football as long as said parent doesn’t squeeze the child and protects the child’s head.
December 4th, 2009 at 10:32 am
Yeah because beating the living heck out of him would speed the bonding process.. not! What a stupid logic, and why are people like this allowed to adopt? I don’t know how it works but, aren’t adoptive parents to be, asked about their expectations or something?
December 4th, 2009 at 10:42 am
Good job Mom – sounds like she deserves that title. As for the live in male, what the heck? The baby hadn’t bonded with him – hmmm kids have good instincts (especially kids who have lived in bad situations before), maybe he could sense the violence simmering under the surface.
December 4th, 2009 at 11:40 am
You have GOT to be KIDDING me? Seriously??? He beat the child for not “bonding”? What exactly does he think bonding is? We are most likely going to be able to adopt a 7 year old that was placed with us in March. He immediately became attached to my husband. However, he wasn’t too fond of me. In his eyes, there was never a father figure, but he has a mom. Am I going to beat him or shake him or smack him around? Uh, no. I’m going to give him the time he needs and be there and support him and love him regardless of whether he gives it back. I’m going to provide discipline when needed. And, you know what? It’s starting to work. He’s starting to ask me for hugs and kisses.
I’m glad the wife turned him in. Hopefully, she and her child can escape from the lunatic and go on with their lives.
December 14th, 2009 at 2:34 pm
Seriously, folks, if you give your kids love, treat them with respect, and meet their needs, they’ll love you, and bond with you. But that takes time and effort, which this asshole obviously didn’t want to invest. Why the hell was he allowed to adopt?!
All this, and people are outraged that gays want to adopt….
December 4th, 2009 at 4:00 pm
My prayers are with the child and the mother…May she receive the support from her family to put this awful incidence behind her and the son!
December 6th, 2009 at 12:29 pm
My brother and I were both adopted together by my parents. I’m so glad that I was blessed with the most amazing people. I’m sure God meant me to be with them. I feel so bad for this baby. I hope he gets the sh** beat out of him in jail.
December 17th, 2009 at 12:01 pm
I am sorry to hear of such a bad story concerning a defenseless child. I am more sorry to hear all the darkness, pre-judgments, that are being spread on this man,this family that none of us know.
I have no judgment.
I know that the Lord our God will decide this one on his own. Rather this was just a rage of anger that was placed in the wrong place at the wrong time or a situation that there is truly more. I know he will deal with it properly.
In this life I have seen incidences of unintentional harm done in magnitudes due to frustration or anger. Although I don’t condone bad behavior I do understand it. Every person has had a moment that has brought fourth rage. In that moment they might have slapped a child, Placed them in a bed, a room, or on a couch aggressively, slammed a door, Cursed them out,or went to grabbed them. Then walked away to calm down.
It only takes a moment!!!!
They say the difference between a criminal and cilvian is the choice we make in the moments we live. Think about it.
May God Bless this family and protect it. For there is a plan in the making and I truly believe that only he can judge for he knows what we don’t know. The truth.