Theodore Madrid is a monster, Southwest Airlines Pilot is a hero and Caden is an angel

Pilot Holds Plane for Grandfather Of Murdered Toddler

Man charged in boy’s death waited to call 911

Man Allegedly Threw Toddler Across Room, Killing Him 

Theodore Madrid allegedly drunk and high when he killed 2-year-old Caden Rodgers

2-year-old Caden Rodgers is dead.  Like so many children featured on this site, Caden was a victim of his mother’s boyfriend’s rage.  The only difference between Caden and the others; Caden wasn’t murdered for crying or wetting his pants.  He was murdered because he didn’t want to “wrestle” any more.  

30-year-old Theodore Madrid told police that he was high on pot and drunk on January 5th – the day that little Caden was injured.  He claims that he was wrestling with the toddler and became frustrated when Caden didn’t want to wrestle any more.  Instead of changing the game, like any reasonable human would do, the mental midget threw the tot across the room, likely slamming his head into the bed frame.  

Caden laid on the floor, lifeless and bleeding, for 2 hours before his mother, 26-year-old Ashley Rodgers, came home.  She was the one with enough sense to dial 911 (shortly after midnight).  You didn’t expect Cro-Magnon man to do it, did you?  Of course not… He didn’t want to get into trouble – DUH.  

When police arrived at the apartment, Caden was lying on the floor with blood coming from the back of his head, swollen bruises on his forehead, a small cut on his lip and blood in his mouth.  In the room with the boy the found a bloody rag and a metal bed frame with blood on it.  Ashley told the officers that Madrid was watching her baby boy while she worked and that he had hit his head and wouldn’t wake up.  Madrid’s initial story was that he “body slammed” Caden onto the bed, but I guess he realized that the cops weren’t stupid enough to buy that shit, so he came eventually came clean.  

Little Caden was taken to the hospital in critical condition.  He succumbed to his injuries the following evening.  His organs have been donated to those in need of transplants.  The tragic event of Caden’s untimely death brought hope to some.    Thank you, Ashley, for that.  

Madrid, who police found to wreak of alcohol, was taken into custody.  Madrid claimed that he took a couple of shots and drank some beer the previous day, but a breathalyzer test showed otherwise.  Madrid’s BAC was .177 – over double the legal limit.  

Madrid is being charged with first-degree murder and two counts of child abuse and is being held without bond.  

On a lighter note, Southwest Airlines has a pilot with a huge heart.  With all of the hoopla about TSA and airport / airline drama, it’s nice to see that one airline worker will take a proactive stance to help a desparate passenger.  

Caden’s (step)grandfather, Mark Dickinson, was on a business trip in Los Angeles when he got the call that little Caden would be removed from life-support that night.  Desperate to get to his bedside to say goodbye, Dickinson booked a flight to Tucson with a connecting flight to Denver.   

Arriving at LAX 2 hours early wasn’t enough time to check his bag and get through the TSA screening line.  I’ve been there… The TSA line alone takes a least 2 hours.  Dickinson let the TSA employees know the situation he was facing – missing the chance to say goodbye to his grandson would be even more heartbreaking on top of the heartache he already felt.  TSA assholes, doing their job (of course), didn’t offer Mr. Dickinson any help to assure him making his flight.  Dickinson, in an effort to make haste, grabbed his computer, belt and shoes as soon as they came through screening and ran shoeless for his gate.  At the gate he was met by the (saint) pilot and the ticketing agent who advised him that they held the plane for him and offered their condolences on the loss of his precious grandson. 

Mark’s wife, Nancy, wrote into AOL’s Travel blogger about the amazing effort on the part of the SWA pilot.  She says that she didn’t know how he got the word about Mark’s plight, but they were both grateful that he did.  Mark was able to say his goodbyes and be there for his wife and step-daughter when little Caden took his final breaths.  

Rest in peace, baby Caden. 

Thanks go to Annette, Tara, Moira, Jeanine, and Dee for this tip.  And an EXTRA special thanks to the unnamed SWA pilot who is a hero in my eyes. 

*** Corrections posted by Nancy Marine Dickinson in the comments section: 

Nancy Marine Dickinson wrote:

 

Okay – let’s see where to start… 

A.  I am the (step) grandmother.  Mark is the grandfather.  Ashley is my (step) daughter.  Mark is her father. 

B.  I didn’t write into the AOL Travel Blogger.  I wrote to Chris Elliott of www.elliott.org

.  Everyone else lifted the story and presented it as their own (even making a few changes along the way – but as a journalist myself, yeah, I can see where reading comprehension shouldn’t factor into any form of journalism)

 

C.  Mark wasn’t there for his wife.  His wife, me, had to stay in Arizona because his ex-wife declared I wasn’t allowed to be there.  If you’d like to get in touch with aforementioned ex wife – her name is Kay xxxxxxxxxx – she lives in xxxxx.  She works at a xxxxxxx  in xxxxx.  

D.  “…lifeless and bleeding…”  Nope.  He was unconscious, the bleeding had stopped but restarted when the EMTs started working on him, he wasn’t lifeless but non-responsive, possibly comatose due to brain swelling because Ass-hat Madrid did nothing to help him.  He idled the two hours waiting for mom to come home so he could attempt to clean up the scene. 

E.  Mark didn’t book a flight to Tucson for a connecting flight to Denver.  His company changed his flight for him to come BACK to Tucson.  He works for a govt. contractor and he HAD to come back to Tucson to finish the trip.  I arranged his flight from Tucson to Denver to coincide with his landing in Tucson.  It wasn’t a layover.  Any other time it would have been, “Mark’s home!” 

F.  His BAC was checked HOURS after this happened.  Imagine what it was when it happened?  .20?  Maybe?  Definitely intoxicated. 

G.  What I wrote to Chris is at his site:
http://www.elliott.org/blog/southwest-airlines-pilot-holds-plane-for-murder-victims-family/ 

H.  The police report’s online:
http://www.thedenverchannel.com/download/2011/0112/26471820.pdf 

I.  Thanks for not being too hard on Ashley.  She’s one of the sweetest, kindest, most loving people you’ll ever meet.  She’s devastated by all this and will never be the same.  None of us will.

 

I.  Sorry to point this out but, it’s “desperate”, not “desparate”.  I’m a writer.  I can’t help it. 

 

 

 

  • Anonymous

    Christian with the foul mouth,

    I wish you had given yourself a username; then I wouldn’t have to call you that.

    In a spirit of helpfulness, let me refer you to several parts of the New Testament:

    Mt 7:12, because nobody likes to be sworn at.
    James 3:6-12
    Mt 18 1-10.

    I also like to re-read the Sermon on the Mount frequently. If your memory is like mine, and you don’t have Bible searching software, it’s Matthew, chapters 5-7.

    Pax, who tries (sometimes successfully) to live by 1 Cor 13…

  • Anonymous

    Meredith,
    I like to think I’m a typical Bible- thumping
    Christian. We don’t stand out because we would rather cite Matt 7:12, in which
    Jesus says “So whatever you wish that men would do to you, do so to them;
    for this is the law and the prophets” than threaten people with Hell. 
    Love works better than fear. (“…perfect love casteth out fear…” 1
    Jn 4:16)

    Pax, who really does study the Bible

    • Anonymous

      I don’t have any particular problem with Christians.  What I have an issue with are those that spout bible verses to attempt to prove their point and have no clue what they may actually mean and those that read less than 1/3 of a verse or passage and manipulate the verbiage for their own gain. 

  • Anonymous

    Dear foul-mouthed Christian, and Meredith,

    Tone of voice: I mean this to sound like what it is: constructive criticism.

    Foul-mouthed Christian,
    Nobody likes being sworn at. Please review James 3:6-12, and Mt 18:1-10. You might want to re-read all of the Sermon on the Mount, too. (Matthew, chapters 5-7, in case you’re memory is as bad as mine.)

    PS. “Mat 1:7″ must be a typo. What verse did you mean to cite?

    Meredith,
    I like to think I’m a typical Bible- thumping
    Christian. We don’t stand out because we would rather cite Matt 7:12, in which
    Jesus says “So whatever you wish that men would do to you, do so to them;
    for this is the law and the prophets” than threaten people with Hell. 
    Love works better than fear. (“…perfect love casteth out fear…” 1
    Jn 4:16)

    Pax, making a strong effort to be meek.

  • Guest

    @Cynical Me, April, Meridith

    Cool Story, Bro!

  • Guest

    Edit:

    I do not deny that I am a huge fucking sinner. I never made the claim that I am a saint. Far from it.

    Author = Cunt
    Loyal Readers = dumbfucks
    Just remember, innocent until proven guilty, motherfuckers.

    Matt 1:7
    Ezekial 25:17

    • http://badbreeders.net/ April

      Guest = retard
       
      I may be a cunt, but I don’t use that language and then post bible verses.  See ya in Hell mother fucker.

    • Meredith

      Care to shed any light on the reason behind your “opinions” of us you judgmental fucktard?

      It’s cute that you’re a typical ignorant bible thumping “Christian” hiding behind words you do not understand and fearful of showing your actual identity because you’re too fucking scared and ill equipped to have an actual discussion over differences of opinion.

      Just remember, the only truly innocent person is the DEAD BABY you asshole. Try remembering that next time you decide to add a little nothing to the grown ups conversation.

    • CynicalMe

      Was it something I said?? It’s funny how I pissed you off yet you go off on everyone else!

      I also find it a bit odd that your more pissed by this:
      “Better to be an open sinner than a false saint!!” and less by being called ignorant.

      As for the point to this whole damn post this is a blog of public opinion. We state our opinions on child abusers and murders! We are not and have never claimed to be a court of law! That’s where innocent until proven guilty comes in Motherfucker!! Get it right and shove your scripture up your ass!!

      Is that simple enough for your tiny brain to comprehend or should I itemize it for you??

  • Guest

    The author and everyone on this site should take their comments and fucking shove it. It is a tragedy that the boy died. But I’m sure everyone on here has skeletons in the closet. Fuck all of you.

    John 8:7 motherfuckers.

    • Meredith

      Do you read your bible with that mouth? Of course everyone here has skeletons – just none that involve a dead baby.

      If I’m reading your comment correctly, it appears that you don’t actually give a shit that a baby died, you’re just pissy that people are talking about it and a few other things along the way but not acknowledging their own stories which actually have nothing to do with this child and are therefore irrelevant to the story. If you don’t care for the way the site is run, you can get the hell out. Buh and bye.

    • CynicalMe

      “Better to be an open sinner than a false saint!!”

      I’m very open about the fact I’m a so called “sinner”. I don’t know what the hell you mean by skeletons but I know for sure I have no abused or dead children in my past, present or future. Not abused by me or mine anyway…

      I absolutely love it when someone quotes Bible verses while saying fuck this, fuck that, and motherfuckers!! Even though it is most amusing, maybe you should do a little more Bible study instead of coming on a Child Abuse Blog and showing your ignorance!!

      • http://badbreeders.net/ April

        I love how you handle the tards in my absence.

        • CynicalMe

          Something about a moronic, hypocritical Asshole quoting bible verses just pisses me off!!

          Might have a little to do with being raised in a Pentecostal church…

          • http://badbreeders.net/ April

            Hey, whhatever drives you.  I love it.

      • http://badbreeders.net/ April

        I love how you handle the tards in my absence.

    • http://badbreeders.net/ April

      I’m the author and I h ave no skeletons in my closet.  I’m an open fucking book.  And you’re a moron.  Have yourself a nice day, asshole.

    • http://badbreeders.net/ April

      I’m the author and I h ave no skeletons in my closet.  I’m an open fucking book.  And you’re a moron.  Have yourself a nice day, asshole.

  • Derrick

    Wow, this story and these comments are amazing. I follow stories like this and the comments for my research in the moral decline of our country. First off the only one at fault for Caden’s death is the asshole that killed him. Hopefully everyone can at least agree with that fact. There is no right or wrong way to grieve either, but I was suggested to this website by a friend who is close to the family. Is turning this tragedy into a way of dividing a family and causing unneeded stress on Ashley and Cayden’s father during this time really any better behavior than the asshole that caused this tragedy? I know that Ashley has friends and family in Colorado and through time and support from ALL of her family & friends she will make the transition from a victim to a survivor of this horrible tragedy. However, like other stories I’ve followed, there always seems to be someone who thinks they are so much better than everyone else and nobody can fix the problem better than them and of course there’s the enablers also. The facts I know of this story are:
    a. The hotel room was paid for by the Ronald McDonald House
    b. There is a Military Base 45 minutes outside of Denver
    c. None of the families living in Aurora are on welfare
    There is one victim in this tragedy CADEN. The surviving families need to grieve and celebrate the time they had with Caden. If you can’t do that at least have the courtesy to the other family members and STFU. If you need to write your feelings down to grieve, create a diary and keep it to yourself.
    April, it is great that you try and help families get the whole story out to the public, however in this case, it seems there’s more to the story than you are being told. Be careful on picking sides. It seems Nancy wants to be in the media to air her side of the story and play the victim. I don’t usually post, I just read for my research. However, since this is personal to me, I decided to post.

    • http://badbreeders.net/ April

      I’m not picking sides.  I like Nancy and I don’t know Kay.  The only “side” I’m on is the baby’s.

  • Jenn

    Nancy, I don’t think you are being “judged” because of the way you are grieving. Everyone knows there’s no proper way to grieve, especially in the case of a young boy being murdered.
    You are, however, under judgement for the way you are making accusations against this poor boy’s family.
    From what I’ve gathered from these posts, you were not around for reasons you’ve claimed – that is all understandable. What is NOT understandable is how you could make snide comments about this boy’s father, biological grandmother, and other family members.
    People would probably not be so harsh towards you if you would stop being so harsh to the other mourners of the situation.
    Grieve however you’d like, just remember you are not the only one doing so.

  • Guest II

    “As far as “guest” below – this is the family of the father..” Excuse me, are you referring to Caden’s father and his family?

  • CynicalMe

    How is it that this has become less about Caden, Ashley, and an Angel of a Pilot and more about a pissing contest between family members and friends of family?!?

    I personally think all of you that keep coming to this site to attack and keep this shit going needs to focus on coping or helping to cope with the loss of a beautiful baby boy!!

    I hope I speak for everyone when I say no one here wants to read your personal bullshit or see how childish and selfish you actually are!

    Grow the hell up and put your energy into supporting Ashley, she just lost her baby and she’s going to need all the support she can get for a very long time!!

    The Bitch Formerly Known as Shal

    • http://badbreeders.net/ April

      No.  You spek for everybody.  Thank you.

      • http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=1556838763 Nancy Marine Dickinson

        Thanks for standing up for me, darlin’. You’re all class, all the time.

        Ashley is having some problems coping and some additional problems have arisen that have people concerned for her. We’re working to convince her to come down here with us so she can get the help and protection she needs.

        Ashley is such a pure heart I think this blindsided her much more than anyone realized. I wish more people knew her as well as her father and I. Since this happened, she talks to us a great deal as well as two friends – no one else.

        I was sharing with a detective that called us today to talk to us more about this that Ashley is one of the kindest souls and has always had so much love. Her father and I are afraid that part of her is gone now and it hurts a great deal.

        I guess I should apologize to everyone for not grieving in a manner they feel is befitting. I didn’t know there was a rule book somewhere that said I could never smile or laugh again. I didn’t know that our lives had to stop on the day Caden died. I’m sorry and I’ll go get a cat-‘o nine tails so I can walk down the streets of town wailing and flagellating myself.

        For those of you who berate us for not having made it to Colorado… I was in Colorado for a week right before Caden was born. Our youngest went with me to see Ashley. Her father and I both travel a great deal in our jobs and Ashley works a lot of hours given she was supporting Caden alone. Just this past year alone my husband has taken 11 business trips, generally for two or three weeks at a time. I’ve flown over 50,000 miles in the last nine months. My husband and I didn’t have the luxury of going on welfare and living in Aurora. My husband has an extremely demanding, important job working on a government contract that saves lives.

        So, no, we didn’t get to go to Colorado and Ashley didn’t get to come here once Caden was born. But we talked on the phone several times a week. Caden knew who we were, we knew who he was and he was just learning to say, “I love you, Grandma and Grandpa”. Both of our cell phones are filled with photos of Caden. I’m sure the hard drive on Ashley’s computer (one we provided so she could stay in touch with us) is filled with the photos we sent of our house, the dogs, us, our son, the chickens (which Caden LOVED) and our lives.

        In addition – for anyone to imagine for one second that our not living right on top of Ashley and Caden means we didn’t care, well, you must be incredibly stupid or just plain mentally ill. Being a military family, we have to go where the government tells us to go. Since going to work for a government contractor, it’s the same deal. I wish we had always been independently wealthy so we didn’t have to work but, alas, we haven’t built a better mousetrap nor have we won the lottery. We have to work for a living and go where we’re needed.

        But, yeah, you’re all right. It’s would have been better for us to be homeless and suckling from the government teat. However, had her husband not walked out on her four months after they got married so he could be with another girl, things “might” have turned out better. I’m not saying it would have altered the course of fate and destiny but it might have. We’ll never know.

        I’d be curious to know how many of you, decades down the road, won’t have a lifetime of things not done, places not seen, books not read, love not shared, all in anticipation of “some day”.

        As far as “guest” below – this is the family of the father who blame me for not “doing more to help Ashley” when I was 1200 miles away and they were right there. There’s much more to the story but this isn’t the time or place, nor will it ever be. I merely pray for them that God teach them how to love.

        My husband and I have chosen to use this as a lesson in life and loving as much as you can, for as long as you can. We are working towards healing all our family relationships and are working towards loving each other more and more. Just this past weekend, I was in Orlando having breakfast with a sister I hadn’t talked to in over a year. It felt so good to look across the table and see her and tell her I loved her.

        Love is always better than hate.

        • http://badbreeders.net/ April

          Sweetie, you don’t have to appologize or explain yourself.  People handle grief in very different ways.  I think you are fine being you and anyone who doesn’t like it can get bent.

  • guest

    She is not the one you should get first hand info from. She never even met Caden (or talked to him on the phone). Wait! I know the response but Arizona to Colorado really in three years you can’t make it???? She is not caring a bit about her step-daughter or step-grandson, all Nancy cares about is the media attention for herself.

    • http://badbreeders.net/ April

      You know, Nancy was classy enough to understand me taking her jab at Kay of this site.  She didn’t continue to take jabs.  It’s a shame you can’t show the same class.

    • Steve

      at least she is being upfront about who she is and honest about what she knows rather than throwing stones from behind an internet wall. if you had any balls you would do the same-so clearly we know where to put our stock.

      • http://badbreeders.net/ April

        As my kid would say “FIST PUMP”!

  • Armyofonethomas

    Doesn’t anyone else find this person a little strange? She may be a step-grandparent, but this child was just murdered and 2 weeks later, she is on this site correcting grammar, making smart comments about hte actual grandmother not wanting her there, talking with everyone about Jerry Seinfeld and wine and not breaking commandments. She is just weird. I wouldn’t have wanted her there either. Sorry if you don’t like my opinion. I don’t really care for others I have read. I am glad that this site is here though.

  • Armyofonethomas

    Doesn’t anyone else find this person a little strange? She may be a step-grandparent, but this child was just murdered and 2 weeks later, she is on this site correcting grammar, making smart comments about hte actual grandmother not wanting her there, talking with everyone about Jerry Seinfeld and wine and not breaking commandments. She is just weird. I wouldn’t have wanted her there either. Sorry if you don’t like my opinion. I don’t really care for others I have read. I am glad that this site is here though.

    • http://badbreeders.net/ April

      No.  She’s very sweet and cares very much for Ashley and Caden.  She is having a hard time dealing with the loss of the baby, but everyone handles grief differently.  I think her reasoning for correcting me here was that many news sites took what she sent originally and twisted it to make it their own.  I can understand her wanting to get the story straight.  I think I may have done the same.  And I appreciate first hand information.  I would like to have as much accurate info as possible.  It makes me look less daft.

    • http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=1556838763 Nancy Marine Dickinson

      Yes, CLEARLY, I’m the one to focus on…

      Sorry to have had a light hearted moment while my grandson is now cold in the ground. Seems you might have some type of rules related to grieving. Care to share them with me so I don’t offend your sensibilities again because I need my WHOLE WORLD to revolve around you and your feelings.

      Have a grandson murdered and you can judge me. Until then, STFU.

      • http://badbreeders.net/ April

        Okay… Normally I would verbally bitch slap someone for putting one of out regulars in their place, but FUCK IT.  You put me in my place by correct my story and I love you for it.  You are entitled to grieve however you want.  You clearly love Ashley.  Even to the point that you didn’t go to the funeral to keep her from any unneeded stress that would have been caused because of the personal issues between you and her bio-“mother”.  It’s very easy to judge you, but I am the one that has gotten to know you away from  this site.  I reserve the right to be the only one to judge you.  PERIOD!
         
        April has wished it and so it shall be.

    • http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=1556838763 Nancy Marine Dickinson

      Yes, CLEARLY, I’m the one to focus on…

      Sorry to have had a light hearted moment while my grandson is now cold in the ground. Seems you might have some type of rules related to grieving. Care to share them with me so I don’t offend your sensibilities again because I need my WHOLE WORLD to revolve around you and your feelings.

      Have a grandson murdered and you can judge me. Until then, STFU.

  • Anonymous

    So this sack of shit wants to “wrestle”? Hopefully Bubba can accommodate him. Repeatedly.

  • http://pulse.yahoo.com/_GM7S3QLN3CZOJDBRM4VPJ6UZYM Leela

    Thank you again April. I’m sorry for the way it was conveyed, but I’m friends with the family and know how they are grieving and trying to understand how and why this happened. I hope you can understand my defensiveness. I know the truth and in the families desire to keep as much of this out of the media as they can, I’ll leave it at that.

    • http://badbreeders.net/ April

      I understand.  I didn’t;t post the story to out Kay.  This is about poor Caden and the mother fucker that murdered him.  I LOVE blaming mothers who have these men in their lives, as it seems that they weren’t picky enough about who they let into the lives of their children.  I clearly didn’t toss that in on this one because it seems that Ashley was a victim as well.  She certainly is defending Madrid, which earns her more respect in my book. 
       
      I like Nancy, so I welcome her to comment.  She has agreed (offsite) to keep the personal issues out of her comments.  I like you too.  I hope that you continue to comment.

  • http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=1556838763 Nancy Marine Dickinson

    Oh, neglected to mention – we had lunch yesterday with the pilot. Turns out he also lives in Arizona. Exceptional man. He wasn’t aware WHY Mark was rushing to the plane other than his grandson was injured. He didn’t hesitate to hold the plane.

    In addition, a BnB in Montana was so moved by his actions he’s been offered a weekend at the BnB.

    What should have been an event that completely destroyed our faith in humanity has served to show us, at a time when we needed it most, was that there ARE good people in the world – they just need to be given the opportunity to step up.

    The Country Inn & Suites at DIA put up my husband and his daughter for a week because they were so moved by what was happening to our family.

    God has been hard at work to help the family deal with all of this. I wish we still had Caden, though…

    • http://badbreeders.net/ April

      Oh, Nancy!  That’s awesome.  It sounds like you have made a new friend!  I know that nothing will bring the baby back, but know that there are people who care…. people you have never met…. like ME!!!  I cry for so many of these babies, Caden’s name is one of many in my collection of tears.  His face will forever haunt me.

  • http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=1556838763 Nancy Marine Dickinson

    I’m digging the comments you give in relation to all the stories here. While the stories here are heart breaking it’s actually rather nice to have “some” levity in it all.

    It was always easy for me to sit in judgment of “other” people but now that it’s happened to our family, and I KNOW Ashley to be a good parent, it’s not so easy.

    Shit Stain, Ass-hat, etc. doesn’t even BEGIN to describe the monster that did this to my grandson. I wish I had defied the ex and gone to the funeral as my step daughter asked me to be there. However, the drama coming from, well… would have been so great it would have traumatized Ashley more. She understands and loves me even more for thinking about her and not myself at such a difficult time.

    Keep up the good work. People need to know about these things. In talking to the police, another small child was murdered in the Denver area about the same time as Caden. I can’t find any press about it, though.

    • http://badbreeders.net/ April

      Damn!  I type a whole response to you and my computer when ape shit.  Sorry. 
       
      Cliff’s note version – I commend you for doing the what you felt was best for Ashley.  I’m sure that was a tough call to make.  She needs all of the shoulders she can cry one right now.  Knowing that others are suffering with her may help her feel less helpless.
       
      Nancy, you will have to read back some of my stories.  Stephanie Sloop, Jonathan Foster, Cody Geddings…… I can’t come up with enough names to call these monsters.  All I can do is cry for these lost babies, take a breath, and post my stories hoping that someone will learn from some of the mistakes…. or that someone will see the faces of these people and not let them into the lives of their children.  It’s hard to do, but I take comfort in knowing that I get to be a voice for little ones that lost theirs.
       
      If you find the Denver baby, let me know.  I’d love to post it.

  • http://pulse.yahoo.com/_GM7S3QLN3CZOJDBRM4VPJ6UZYM Leela

    Thank you. Be careful who you believe. Some have just as many skeletons in their closet as they claim others do.

    • http://badbreeders.net/ April

      I know, Leela.  My reason for posting the story wasn’t to fan the flame of anyone’s personal issues.  It was just to shame the asshole that murdered that beautiful boy.  I feel just as bad for Kay as I do for Nancy, but I DO think it was wrong for Kay to keep Nancy and Mark from being with Caden during his final moments.  At that point it was about Caden and no longer about Kay and Mark.  Like I said, I wasn’t there.  I hope that’s not the case.  If it IS the case, I don’t know how she can look at herself in the mirror.  It was a tragedy and a time for grieving and for everyone to come together.  The enemy is clearly Madrid.  Not Kay and not the Dickinsons.
       
      Thanks for taking the time to post.  If you have any other facts that need to be set straight, feel free to post them here.

    • http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=1556838763 Nancy Marine Dickinson

      I have no skeletons – my life’s an open book. Call me, I’m listed. I’ll tell you the real story. Be happy to do so if for no other reason than to get it off this board so the board can get back to the really serious business of shaming the ass-hats that do horrible things to helpless, defenseless children.

      • http://badbreeders.net/ April

        Damn.  Now you sound like me.  Just when I think I can’t like you any more.  People are always calling me out here.  Asking if I have ever done anything I’m ashamed of.  Sure I have, but it’s what makes me me and I’m not afraid to tell anyone about it.  Just ask.
         
        More kudos to you, sister.

        • http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=1556838763 Nancy Marine Dickinson

          Right back atcha, darlin’.

          I’ve done some things I’m ashamed of but I’ve never broken a commandment and I’ve never broken up a marriage.

          What you do here is amazing. I’ve been looking through some stories here and it’s truly difficult that there are so many people out there who can be as cavalier about human life as they are.

          My kids are my greatest joy and gift and I couldn’t imagine doing anything to them that would bring them even a moment of pain.

          • http://badbreeders.net/ April

            Let me know when you’re ready to write for us.  I think you could write my funky butt right of of this “job”.  Wait…. hopefully Trench loves me enough that he wouldn’t replace me that easily.
             
            I have done some stupid shit – drunken teenage escapades and all – but I have never been arrested and I have never intentionally hurt a child.  So, skeletons…. NOPE!  It seems we have more in common than I thought.  How do you feel about wine?  RED wine, in particular.

          • http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=1556838763 Nancy Marine Dickinson

            I just fell in love with you, April, in a completely hetero way!

            Red wine is my absolute favorite, particularly a nice Cabernet! Though there is a blush coming out of a New Mexico vineyard that is one of the best I’ve ever had. Shared it with some friends one night and it was gone in 60 seconds!

            My husband bought me a wine fridge for Christmas a couple years ago and I’m always adding a new bottle here and there. As a travel writer, I go all over the place. I always pick up a bottle of wine or two for the fridge. I believe in entertaining with the good stuff.

          • http://badbreeders.net/ April

            Ditto – in a totally hetero way… not that lesbian love is wrong, mind you. 
             
            I love a good Cab, but am partial to a red blend.  Organic wines are good (no hangover).  Come on to California.  I’ll meet you in Sanoma.  I have a feeling we could get into some serious trouble there.

          • http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=1556838763 Nancy Marine Dickinson

            LOL@ April – you reminded me of Seinfeld – they had a show where they kept mentioning homosexuals – and always followed it with, “Not that there’s anything wrong with that”.

            My wine fridge has more Shiraz than anything else. Yellow Tail, I think.

            @ The Shadow Knows – first, great login. Second, I’m with you. Like April said earlier, I hope he’s passed around like a hooker at a bachelor party.

            @Deena – spelling great (sorry to cause the angst) and thank you. The decision to do so was Ashley’s and Caden’s father. The maturity they showed at an extremely difficult time is commendable. The respect I have for them both is huge and it grows every day.

          • http://badbreeders.net/ April

            Mmmmmm.  Alne Tanner Syrah is my absolute fave.  Kinda $$ but yummy.  A close second is Well Red (a red blend).  Super cheap, but more than drinkable.

  • http://pulse.yahoo.com/_GM7S3QLN3CZOJDBRM4VPJ6UZYM Leela

    Seriously? You publicly bad mouthed Kay and used her grandson’s story of his death to do it? She helped Ashley raise that child. She saw him almost every day. When was the last time you came and saw him? Bringing up Kays name was totally inappropriate. That stunt was what a jilted teenager would do.

    • http://badbreeders.net/ April

      I’m going to give you one chance to stop this NOW.  Nancy’s main concern was to correct the information that was posted.  No one cares about personal drama between Nancy and Mark’s ex.  There is STILL a murdered baby to consider.  Calling people out won’t change that.  Nancy obviously cares for Ashley – that’s all that matters at this point.

      • http://pulse.yahoo.com/_GM7S3QLN3CZOJDBRM4VPJ6UZYM Leela

        So if no one cares, why did you post it? Right, correct the information that was posted. I didn’t see anything posted about Mark’s ex-wife in your original story. You’re right, calling people out won’t change that… hence I am requesting the personal stabs be removed. Kay is grieving just as much as the rest of the family. Things like this certainly don’t help in the grieving process. Correcting facts is one thing, allowing personal jabs is another.

        • http://badbreeders.net/ April

          I posted it because I care about Caden.  I don’t care about the ex-wife.  Did I not say that no one cares about personal drama?  No where did I post that no one cares about the case.  Kay has nothing to do with the corrected facts.  Her name was not mentioned in my article because she wasn’t mentioned in the news sources I linked.  Keep the personal drama of the site.  That’s all I’m asking.  I don’t think that’s an unreasonable request.  I will ask Nancy to keep the personal jabs out of her comments as well.  Everyone is grieving – Ashley, Mark, Kay, Nancy and (I’m sure) Caden’s father,  There is no reason for this bullshit.  None.  I just want to stop it before it goes any further.
           
          Honestly, I didn’t catch the jab in Nancy’s comment when I first read it.  If Kay truly did stop them from going to Caden’s side, I think that qualifies her as selfish.  There is a time to put aside differences and the death of a child is certainly a “time”.  I wasn’t there.  I don’t know.  Kay has to live with herself if that’s the case.

          • http://pulse.yahoo.com/_GM7S3QLN3CZOJDBRM4VPJ6UZYM Leela

            Then again, I ask that you please remove it from the story.

          • http://badbreeders.net/ April

            I editted the story portion.  I will edit her comment only to remove Kay’s personal information.  Like I said, I missed the personal jabs whne I initially read the comment.

  • http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=1556838763 Nancy Marine Dickinson

    Okay – let’s see where to start…

    A. I am the (step) grandmother. Mark is the grandfather. Ashley is my (step) daughter. Mark is her father.

    B. I didn’t write into the AOL Travel Blogger. I wrote to Chris Elliott of http://www.elliott.org. Everyone else lifted the story and presented it as their own (even making a few changes along the way – but as a journalist myself, yeah, I can see where reading comprehension shouldn’t factor into any form of journalism)

    C. Mark wasn’t there for his wife. His wife, me, had to stay in Arizona because his ex-wife, a REALLY bad breeder, declared I wasn’t allowed to be there. If you’d like to get in touch with aforementioned bad breeder – her name is Kay Harrington – she lives in Denver. She works at a UPS store in Denver. Take a look at her checkered past and see the example she sets. Sooooo – thanks, Kay.

    D. “…lifeless and bleeding…” Nope. He was unconscious, the bleeding had stopped but restarted when the EMTs started working on him, he wasn’t lifeless but non-responsive, possibly comatose due to brain swelling because Ass-hat Madrid did nothing to help him. He idled the two hours waiting for mom to come home so he could attempt to clean up the scene.

    E. Mark didn’t book a flight to Tucson for a connecting flight to Denver. His company changed his flight for him to come BACK to Tucson. He works for a govt. contractor and he HAD to come back to Tucson to finish the trip. I arranged his flight from Tucson to Denver to coincide with his landing in Tucson. It wasn’t a layover. Any other time it would have been, “Mark’s home!”

    F. His BAC was checked HOURS after this happened. Imagine what it was when it happened? .20? Maybe? Definitely intoxicated.

    G. What I wrote to Chris is at his site:
    http://www.elliott.org/blog/southwest-airlines-pilot-holds-plane-for-murder-victims-family/

    H. The police report’s online:
    http://www.thedenverchannel.com/download/2011/0112/26471820.pdf

    I. Thanks for not being too hard on Ashley. She’s one of the sweetest, kindest, most loving people you’ll ever meet. She’s devastated by all this and will never be the same. None of us will.

    J. Sorry to point this out but, it’s “desperate”, not “desparate”. I’m a writer. I can’t help it.

    • http://badbreeders.net/ April

      Thanks for commenting.  I corrected the spelling but must have posted before the correction.  I’ll leave the typo so people know I’m human.  Also, I took the facts that I posted from several news sources.  Of course there would be conflicting information.  Thankfully we have you to set the record straight.  I’m THRILLED for that!  I love when family member some forward on this site and offer first hand info without being complete asstards.  I am sending virtual hugs in your direction.
       
      I’m sorry for your loss.  I’m sure that your family is aching to hear the laughter of that sweet boy.  I don’t even know him and seeing his face and knowing of his final hours makes me hurt like you can’t believe. 
       
      For the record, I am the first person to blame a mother if I feel she’s deserving of blame in the death of a child.  I don’t think Ashley is deserving of any harsh words.  I’m sure she blames herself enough.  The fact that she’s not defending the son of a bitch that murdered her child is reason enough for me to defend her against anyone who might come here posting harsh words about her.
       
      Again, thanks for setting the record straight.  I appreciate it more than you can imagine.  Would you mind keeping us posted on the shit stain’s trial?

      • http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=1556838763 Nancy Marine Dickinson

        Actually, in talking to the authorities in Aurora, it’s looking as though there won’t be a trial. Ass-hat Madrid has admitted to everything (as though he had a choice) and is probably going to plead out to a lesser charge. It’s estimated he will probably receive between 40 to 100 years in prison.

        According to the authorities, he’ll probably be in his 50’s when he gets out, with “good time”. That is unless prison justice gets him first. The detective I talked with was a prison guard before he was a police officer and he ASSURES me it’s not a rumor that in prison child killers are very low on the totem pole. He said the only thing more reprehensible to prison inmates, male or female, are child molesters.

        My guess is Ass-hat Madrid will become Ready Teddy.

        • http://badbreeders.net/ April

          Nancy, I sent you a friend request on FB.  I hope you don’t mind.  You are welcome to correspond with me that way if you feel that posting here will put you under a microscope.  I think you and your husband have been though enough.
           
          As for Madrid – I hope he gets passed around like a hooker at a bachelor party.  There isn’t justice enough for his crime, but knowing that he isn’t enjoying life would take some of the sting out of it…. for me anyways.  =)

    • http://badbreeders.net/ April

      I copied and pasted your comment as corrects to my misinformation.  You know how some news articles can sensationalize some information, causing incorrect facts to be circulated.  Thanks again!

    • Deena

      Nancy… I am truly sorry for your family’s loss. I am just speechless as to what to say to try and ease your pain. I wish I could take it all away for you ALL!

      Absolutely wonderful to donate his organ, extremely difficult decision in a extremely difficult time, but so generous and courageous (sp?).

      Please know my thoughts and tears are with your family.

      • http://badbreeders.net/ April

        Damn, D – you have to be one of the sweetest people I know…. Besides Nancy.  She’s pretty much a rock star.

  • Ally

    I read this story last week on the news site, and I was so moved. It just goes to show that not all people are pushy assholes only out for themselves. That Pilot is truly a gentleman and terrific person, to delay everyone on that plane, the air traffic control guys, for this man to say goodbye to his Grandson. Its a shame that stories like this are so rare, because really, we should ALL be doing stuff like this every day.
    On a shitty note, that “man” deserves to be hung for doing that to a baby, I think the one thing that ALL of these assholes we see on here have in common, is that they are selfish. They only care about what they want to do, their peace and quiet, their sleep, their sex life, their well being, their needs. It makes me sick. I want to say more, but I feel a rant coming on.

    • http://badbreeders.net/ April

      Rant away, honey.  I just caught my breath from writing that one and had to jump into another dead baby story.  I’d love to read a good rant.