Family member of Breeder charged with murder of daughter has some good advice

Christopher Storbakken

Christopher Storbakken

I was almost going to pass on this story because I can’t stomach a lot of the stories sent to me however in this tragedy comes wisdom.

27-year-old Christopher Storbakken of Indianapolis has been charged with murder in the death of his one-year-old daughter Fowler Harper. Storbakken at first claimed he dropped her while removing her from the crib but the autopsy showed that Fowler died from blunt force trauma and had injuries to her stomach, leg, arm and hand. Police say that Storbakken eventually admitted to striking his daughter because she wouldn’t stop crying. Unfortunately these types of death have become all too familiar to us.

However a family member has some great advice, which may be considered common sense to some but not by all, about what the constant crying may mean…

“I was one of them,” Rehme said. “I had a child that it took months for me to realize she was allergic to dairy, so I had to deal with that. The thing is, take a break; ask for help.”

The crying is not your fault and there is no weakness in asking someone for help.

Thanks to AJ for the tip.

  • Alexandra1973

    When babies cry it’s not personal, they’re letting you know they want/need something. Doesn’t take a rocket scientist to figure that out.

    I volunteer at an addictions program my church has. My pastor’s daughter helps out and I watch her younger two in the nursery. It’s been a while since I’ve taken care of a baby (my own child is almost 13) but I’m happy to say I can still keep my cool if the baby cries. :) I’m usually rather high-strung.

  • k sh

    wow, yes, that quoted statement from Rehme puts it all right there in front of our assorted faces.

    When I see a parent struggling to cope with a screaming child , being the nosy person I am I do tend to get within ear range & try to grasp what the situation is.

    Sometimes a simple ” oh gee what a doll:) My son used to get like that if he was hungry or too tired. ” Generally the parent wil respond with something like ‘ Yes exactly, it is past feeding time but I am almost done with this and he will be ok.’. Parent sounds calm, grasps the situation, has a handle on it; when I ask ‘can I help at all?” says ‘no but ty, we’ll be out of here in 2 minutes, thanks though!’. I figure, ok child is in good hands.

    If I hear a response like ‘oh he is being so bad! He hasn’t stopped all day, ..etc” I pretty well say well how about I entertain him for a little while until you get your stuff done? He/She looks so smart, look how he is trying to talk already! Nice job parent!, all kids do this sometimes, look let me know , but it would do wonders for me to spend a few distracting him, children as intelligent as your’s are a pleasure for me to spend a bit of time with!” . That usually leads to an ‘oh thank you, yea he just wants some attention.” .

    Now, ftr, I am not removing these kids from the parents’s area, just trying to provide a small break.

    I am babbling endlessly to make the point that if we are aware of a parent struggling with a crying child, trying to help give them a break, some kind words, could help at time to prevent the parent snapping.

    and yes, for any parents reading, we all have those moments, ask for help, no parent is a superparent 24/7/365,