On Tuesday, March 13th, Alyshia Alexander (24) loaded her three boys – Jedidiah (3), Jerimiah (2) and Jeadin (1) -into her car, told her brother “I’m going to drop the boys off.” and headed over to the home of her estranged husband Jedidiah Alexander (25). She didn’t know, her brother didn’t know and her boys didn’t know this was the last trip they’d make with mommy to visit daddy.
Alyshia and Jedidiah had a rocky relationship, with occasions of domestic violence. They had married in early 2009, but were separated and she had made the decision to move forward with a divorce. She was, by all accounts, a loving and devoted mother and wanted to allow the boys to maintain a relationship with their father. Jedidiah, also by all accounts, was a good father to the boys but was resistant to the divorce.
Alyshia arrived at Jedidiah’s mother’s home to drop the boys off for their visit. There is nothing I can find that details exactly what happened but what is known is that Jedidiah shot Alyshia as they sat in her car before turning the gun on himself. All the while their three boys sat in the back seat, watching.
The boys would be found in the back seat splattered with the blood of their parents and covering their little ears. **Cry** Laying across the front seat were the bodies of their mommy and daddy. These poor, poor babies my heart literally breaks for them.
All three boys are with Alyshia’s mother, she has said the three year old told her “daddy shot mommy.” She is concerned the effects the tragedy will have on the boys and rightfully so, the younger ones may come out unscathed, but the 3-year-old will remember this and for that I am so sorry.
My heartbreaks for these little guys, heading over excited to see daddy happy and anxious, to end up never being able to see mommy or daddy again. How does their grandmother explain it? How do you erase that image from their memories? How do you make them understand that daddy’s lack of self control has changed their lives forever? How do you make them understand that mommy’s love for them was more important than her own safety and she walked into her death so that her boys could still have a relationship with their daddy and he’s gone too?