First and foremost I want to start this story by telling you that I am a co-sleeping parent. Both my daughters slept with my husband and me as babies. My older one was out of my bed by age 5 (don’t ask) and my 2 year old is still there (don’t ask again). I love sleeping with my kids in the same bed, and sometimes I hate it – but that’s another story. I understand that some people feel very strongly one way or the other about co-sleeping and I’m sure there will be a little debate in the comments – go for it. I co-slept with my kids for security, I liked having them right there. I thought about them all alone down the hall in a big room and I couldn’t even bare it. Ridiculous, I know – but it worked for us. I was also incredibly careful, I even purchased a co-sleeping partition with my 2nd so if we moved in our sleep, it would wake us. We’re both light sleepers and never, ever once rolled onto either of my kids or anything of the sort. I know it’s not for everyone – but when done correctly, co-sleeping is something that has been practiced safely around the world for generations and generations. In fact, most other children of the world co-sleep. Asia has the highest population of co-sleeping and the lowest rate of SIDS.
Vanessa and Mark Clark (his parents really did that to him?) have been indicted for endangering a child after 2 babies died within a year of each other while co-sleeping with them. As a co-sleeping parent, I wanted to side with them. Until I read that Vanessa was found to have elevated levels of hydrocodone (read: vicodin) and Xanax in her blood after the 2nd baby died.
The prosecutor’s case stated that sleeping while impaired with kids in the same bed is akin to drinking and driving with your children in the car. I have to agree. Co-sleeping is not against the law, so I can see where they had to prove without a shadow of a doubt that these parents knowingly put their son in danger by sleeping with him in the same bed. I think when you add a narcotic and an anti-anxiety med to the equation, you have a case. I feel like whether they’d had 1, 2 or 10 babies die in their bed while they slept, if one of the parents was high on a Heath Ledger-type cocktail when any of them happened – you’re guilty in my book.
Prosecutors say that she should’ve known better after baby Christian died back in 2009 at 39 days old. That she ”intentionally, knowingly, recklessly, or with criminal negligence” put the child at risk of “imminent danger” of death, bodily injury, or physical or mental impariment, by sleeping with said child in the same bed when said child that was less than four months of age.” Little Tristan was only 2 months old when he died.
She’s been found guilty of child endangerment and faces up to 20 years in the slammer.
In a bizarre addition to this story, check out her mug shot. Does she look like a grieving mom to you? Or does she look like this was taken on last summer’s cruise to Bermuda? Just sayin’.
Ps – public service announcement from Danielle – if you wear white eye shadow…. stop it now.