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There is so much news on this story that I could post an entire page of just news links.
Adopting a child is a very noble thing to do. Adopting twins, even more so. While many people don’t agree that we should be adopting children from other countries while there are so many children here in desperate need of homes, I won’t begrudge responsible parents who do so. There is so much red tape in this country regarding adoptions… I know of at least one woman who was not allowed to adopt here because she has MS, so she adopted overseas. There are some issues associated with adopting children from other countries, which I’ll get into in a minute, but I’m hoping to keep the “adopt American vs. overseas” discussion out of this… that’s not the point of this at all.
This story first came to light when Jessica Beagley
sent a video in to The Dr. Phil Show because she felt she was out of control. Really? I officially nominate this for The Understatement of the Year Award. The video, shot by her 10 year old daughter, showed how Jessica would “discipline” her adopted 7 year old son, one of a pair of twin boys the family adopted from Russia at age 5.
Everyone in the audience was appalled, many were in tears after watching what this woman put this little 7 year old boy through. The boy in the video was clearly terrified. No wonder he lied. I think that, for him, it was a case of “you’re damned if you do, you’re damned if you don’t”, and he was hoping that, just this once, he could escape the horrendous punishments dished out by this beast who called herself his mother. She was in his face, shouting at him… an adult woman, in the face of a little 7 year old boy, shouting at him. And that wasn’t even close to being the worst of it.
The form of discipline used is known to some as “hot saucing”, in which the child is made to hold hot sauce in his mouth. In the video, she’s heard telling him to swish it around. But, hey, at least she didn’t force feed him Zataran’s spice. Then this poor little boy was forced into a cold shower where he is heard screaming. I can’t stand being cold, and I can stand the thought of my boys being cold even less. I can’t imagine forcing my child into a cold shower, and judging by their dress in the video, the weather wasn’t exactly balmy.
While I would normally commend any parent for seeking help to be a better parent, what this woman did to this child (and most likely his brother and her other children at some point) is monstrous. The things she did to this child can not only cause serious physical and emotional trauma, but at least one of them is a known torture technique.
Here is a family, already with four children of their own, who then chose to adopt a pair of twin boys from Russia. Very noble, right? Only it seems they couldn’t handle the four children they had to begin with.
According to one source, the father, a former service member, admitted to using military disciplinary techniques on his young children. These are techniques used to discipline adults… in the military… and this guy is using them on small children? This “mother” apparently not only did nothing to stop this abuse, but decided to use a few techniques of her own. WTBFH is wrong with these people?
Of course there will be issues with a child adopted from another country. Since this child was adopted at age 5, it’s a safe bet that English is his second language. This would cause added stress to the child, which the adoptive parents should have been aware of in advance. So, not only was this child being brought to a place where the culture is much different than what he was used to, but it probably took him a while to understand what people were saying and to start learning the language of his new home. This would be incredibly stressful for an adult, let alone a child. Being moved in with a new family that he doesn’t know well = stressful. New surroundings = stressful. Most children will act out, test their new parents to make sure they love them unconditionally while trying to find their place within the family. These parents are epic failures.
Watch the video in the first link above… this little boy is clearly terrified of this woman. It breaks my heart to watch, and I wanted so badly to hug that little boy and tell him that everything will be OK. Unfortunately, I think I’d be lying. You see, he and his brother have been left in the “care” of these abominable parents, even though this woman has been charged with abuse and the father admits to using forms of military discipline on small children. I’m completely baffled by this… here they have indisputable evidence that this woman was torturing this boy, causing him emotional distress (and possibly PTSD, among other psychological issues), and possibly even physical damage. And they’ve left this boy and his twin brother in the “care” of these people. The moment charges were pressed, all the children in that house should have been removed from their “care”.
I hope that both of these parents face charges and are prosecuted to the fullest extent of the law, and that these children are found a loving home. It’s a shame that these children will likely be separated from each other in the process, but I hope that there is a loving family out there that will give them all a home together, where they won’t have to be afraid anymore.