It’s once again to dip into the bulging mail sack of the Bad Breeders inbox.
Seriously though, this is a great e-mail from another cycle breaker…
Hi I’m a big fan of your blog. I stumbled upon your link on another site. I praise the work you do and bringing these horrible stories to light and it absolutely breaks my heart at all the things these innocent children are forced to go through.
I was beaten constantly as a child as my mother said it was ”disipline” using anything from shoes to steel rods. My step father also beat me many times. I moved in with my aunt at age 14. At 16 I became pregnant and turned my life around. As before I was out all night drinking and doing drugs fighting and harassing people. When my daughter was 1 I met a man who abused me for a year. One day he choke slammed me to the ground in front of my family. That’s when i had enough. I fought back and left him for good.
I’m currently single by preference. I now work for child and family services in my hometown. I’m proud to say my daughter has never seen me hurt by another person physically. My sister asked me why my child is so polite and intelligent kind and loving. I tell her it’s what she sees. She has never seen violence at home and I instill family values and the importance of helping other’s in need and that a person speaking up for someone who cannot could save another’s life one day.
I thank you for creating this blog and not caring for the ”haters” as i say. I would never defend someone’s horrid actions nor would I feel bad for what other’s think of me as I feel it’s for the best so please continue your amazing work.
After reading an e-mail like this I find that if this amazing woman could break the cycle and make something of her’s and her child’s life it leads me to believe that there is no excuse for anyone to harm their children. Let’s try to make a world where there doesn’t have to be cycle breakers because there will be no cycle. Lofty idea I know but in the beginning most good ideas are lofty.
This next e-mail comes to us from someone who while she may not be a cycle breaker she’s willing to help children nonetheless…
Thanks for all the work you do to expose child abuse and highlight the stories on your site, painful though they are to read.
I worry sometimes I’m not a very good mother because I’m an older mom and now in my 40’s with a very active 4-year-old I sometimes have days when I can’t interact much with her. I have arthritis and though I’m still young enough that it’s not at crisis point yet I have days when I can’t run or kick ball or get down on the floor and play or even pick her up. I feel awful having to say “no” to her. Then I think of all the poor babes on your site who will never get a chance to do any of those things even once and I realise it’s not so bad even if all I can do is hug her and read her a book.
I think the worst and saddest thing in the world must be a small child who dies at the hands of their mother, still loving them to the end even though all they can see from the person who is supposed to love them most is hatred and cruelty.
One day after my daughter starts school and I have time of my own I hope to take the National Center for Missing and Exploited Children training course and work for them in some capacity, whether paid or volunteer. If I could even help one little kid to not have to go through what so many endure on a daily basis that would be something.
I forget where I picked this up but someone once told me if you believe in a cause use whatever your talent is to support that cause. If that means volunteer work, great. In my case I like to think I tell interesting enough stories to not only entertain but educate so that’s what I do.
Find your talent and try to use it to help the victims we read about on this site way too often.
And of course a huge thank you to the amazing readers of this site who support us and never fail to surprise us.